kgal Posted April 29, 2004 Posted April 29, 2004 Well..today I saw my ex. We had some time to hang out.... It wasn't really hard but a bit awkward. Haven't seen him that whole 3 mos. and only chatted online off and on. I can tell its a bit hard for him ...and he's admitted it. I hope we can still eventually get through this..healing phase. Have any of you guys been able to remain close with your ex's?
Girlie Posted April 29, 2004 Posted April 29, 2004 Well, I have an ex that I'm still friends with, although I wouldn't say we're close. He has a new woman and I have a new man and I think that we both understand that our respective significant others would be a little leary at our spending time together too often. But we stay in touch and do enjoy talking with one another, so it is possible to remain on friendly terms with an ex. Just make sure to take the time needed to heal and that applies to either of you....that's the important part. Hard to be friends with someone if you still have a broken heart over them, you know?
Author kgal Posted April 29, 2004 Author Posted April 29, 2004 Originally posted by Girlie Hard to be friends with someone if you still have a broken heart over them, you know? I know....we're both trying very hard. It just felt good to see him again. Thanks girlie!
secondstage2004 Posted April 29, 2004 Posted April 29, 2004 I also had brunch with my ex two sundays ago, around a month after she broke up with me. We had a work-related matter we needed to finish, hence the meeting. I agree that it was such an ackward situation for the both of us. I tried to be friendly and asked if she is starting to date already. To which she responded that she hasn't yet. I felt a tinge of sadness in her disposition, which was reinforced when she said that she is worried that she might never find the right one for her. Anyways, I tried to console her by saying that she will definitely find the right one for her soon since she is such a beautiful person. It's funny. After the meeting, I simply couldn't believe I gave her that advise. How I wish I had just embraced her, and told her to give me another chance and I can try to be the one for her. But I know that is just fantasy on my part. Life goes on without my love. *Sigh* We have been in a "no contact" situation ever since that meeting. *Sigh*
Author kgal Posted April 29, 2004 Author Posted April 29, 2004 I tried to console her by saying that she will definitely find the right one for her soon since she is such a beautiful person. It's funny. After the meeting, I simply couldn't believe I gave her that advise. How I wish I had just embraced her, and told her to give me another chance and I can try to be the one for her. I know how you feel......that's where true love kicks in...when you have to love them enough to be a true friend and ignore your selfish desires. We have been in a "no contact" situation ever since that meeting. *Sigh* EEk..that's terrible..I'm sorry. I pray that doesn't happen w/my ex. He's like one of my bestest friends.
Author kgal Posted April 30, 2004 Author Posted April 30, 2004 Man...wouldn't ya know.....I saw my ex again today. This time...it was harder to say goodbye....and we made the mistake of holding one another a bit much. I don't regret it....but I think that I'm really starting to go back into my thinking of, "why...why did we break up?" I know the reason...it's because of our religions...but .... I don't know how to not love him...or not think of him...or even how to fill that empty gap that I so want him to fill once again. I feel so in limbo...and I just don't know....I know seeing him again would not help my healing. haha. We both agreed to just wait ...really...we met to see if we could...cuz we very much want to stay in each others lives....even if it's just as friends. We love each others company. I just get to missing him SO much.
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