Friend being insecure and worrying about something minor.

[LickABattery]

Baiscally Long story short my friend is abit insecure.

 

Now the problem: The problem is his GF has gone off somewhere for a month i dunno but anyway his thinking that she wont contact him ever again or shes gonna take longer the month to contact him.

 

Some information about this, Baiscally she did promise him that she would contact him after the month was done and something she said has been bothering him no matter how much i tell him.

 

Baiscally she said to him "Talk to you in a Month Or After a Month" Its the "or After a Month" part that has been bothering him his taking this as like his not gonna hear from her for months.

 

My personal opinion which i have told is she most likely ment by saying that, That she would contact him sometime after she has come back and it will be with in the month she gets back if that makes sense?

 

Reason im posting this is because i dont know what to say to him and i really need some other peoples advice on this situation.

 

so my question so i can stop him from worrying is how would you guys take "Or After a month" If your bf/gf said this for the next time when they will contact you again?

 

Yeah i know its a month his gotta wait and they live completely different countries he lives in the UK and she loves in Germany i think he said. I just need advice on what to tell him to stop him worrying about it >.<

Edited August 7, 2011 by LickABattery

[creighton0123]

There's really nothing you can say to him. He is feeling these emotions and must work through them in his own time. One can't change what he or she feels. He is feeling stress, anxiety, confusion, and insecurity. These are all standard emotions manifest in long distance relationships, particularly with a break in routine communication.

 

I find it odd, though, that she can't communicate with him while she is away, even if once every few days for a minute or two. With modern technology or even snail mail, there is no excuse to forgo communication for that long unless you're in the military. Hell... even if you're in a small village without electricity in Africa, sending a letter is still very much possible.

 

I understand his stress. Those of us in LDR's, particularly those of us "left behind" feel them on a regular basis. All he can do is wait until a point in time where he feels as though he can't wait anymore and either find her/go to her or break up with her.

[LickABattery]

Well apperantly the reason she cant Contact him is because, She has a strict Mother and Father, She has gone on holiday with her family for the month so i kinda get why she cant contact him for the full month I guess best he can really do is just wait the month out and look forward to talking to her when she gets back. A month is a month that will soon fly by i really dont think the no communication thing is anything to worry about, i have to say they did talk like 8-9 hours almost everyday XD.

 

He, himself doesn't really mind the no communication part as he said he would probably be the same way but its just the feelings you pointed out that are bothering him, He just gets it stuck in his head that he will never hear from her again.

 

Yeah i completely get you btw, The best advice i gave him is literally what you said, that he needs to patient and just wait the month out then give her a little bit more time to settle down after she gets back.

 

Anyways ty ill just have to try my best to keep his mind off it till she comes back and contacts him xD.

Edited August 9, 2011 by LickABattery