bolase Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 (edited) Maybe a caution to leave ex's in the past? I have known this guy for 4 years, and last year while both newly single, we dated for a few months. He was quite depressed during this time but we were like a 2 person support team as well as good friends with benefits. He is also pretty insecure, always telling me he wasn't good enough to see me etc. We def were not in love but it was a good time though sex was not good (he had lots of problems with lasting and nervousness - NOT THAT I minded, but its relevant to what just happened.. Late last year I broke it off to date someone I really cared about, even though that failed. My friend went out and slept with a few girls. We got into a huge fight after I told him he never lasted that long, because he was insulting my new guy (oblivious to the fact that my new guy didn't want to have sex until marriage, so there was no comparison). This year, we are both far from home in different countries but geographically close to one another. We reconnected as friends and had so much fun talking over skype, email, IM. He started saying how he missed me, and we finally made plans to meet. He said how he had been thinking about me lots, showed pics of me to his mom. At this, point I'm actually getting excited about it as I miss him too. THen today he emails out of the blue, saying he was a lying coward, actually he has a girl but things were tough as she had a boyfriend, and he wanted to keep his options open (with me) in case it didn't work out. SOME friend , aghh, I was so mad and felt so dissed as a friend, that I wrote to him and told him what an ******* he was. Later he came on chat, asking "are we still friends?", and I stupidly began talking to him. He goes on to tell me that sex with me last year was bad, not my fault but because we were incompatible and I always wanted it longer (completely untrue, as I pointed out...he always wanted to stop to make it last longer, that was his insecurity and probs which meant it wasn't good, and of course that we weren't in love)! I was really hurt and insulted anyway, as you would be.. I am a young, pretty girl in good shape, have plenty going for me but this whole thing has just blown my confidence with guys for the moment. On this chat he started talking about how we would have an affair once we are both married, and how I am one of his fantasies...he is such a creep. I told him to stop it, and he said "you know this is all just fun for me right, I love the banter with you". I then find out that he has asked our mutual friends to convince his new love to come home when he does, and that she says she will. I'm stupid for letting this contact happen, but I never thought he could be such an *******, mostly I just thought we could be friends again. Thanks for reading Edited August 7, 2011 by bolase
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