cat Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Hi again, I've posted before about my recent situation-- here's the link http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t290101/ My ex started treating my like crap about a month ago by ignoring me and disappearing when I really needed him. It's been really, really hard for me but I"ve tried to cut ties. I got a letter from my him today, it was long but I can sum it up in a couple sentences: "Sorry it's taken me so long to write this. Even though I was head over heels for you at the beginning, I have a strong idea in my head of the perfect woman for me, and you're not it. I realize you may never want to see me again. I still think highly of you. I want to be friends. I at least want to be civil when we see each other (even though I made no effort last time to talk to you.)" I want to write back many things from one line "I have no interest in being friends," to a whole bunch about how he has a lot to learn about relationships and how to treat people etc. etc. I am guessing the best thing to do with this letter is ignore it. WHat do I do? Can anyone give me some advice? Mind you, this letter comes after a month of mistreatment, and after I'd FINALLY started to move on and not think about him as much. I feel like I"m majorly backsliding. Help.
just_scott Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 IF it were me and my ex sent me a letter like that [OR even someone i'm seeing now ] i'd send them a ''thank you '' card and say ''all is good , you pretty much said what i was trying to tell you'' THEN just ignore them
shayla Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I got an email like this and I wish someone would have given me the advice I'm giving you right now. Do not reply. Do not comment on it anywhere but here. He wrote that trash for a reaction. He wants to justify his behavior by making you send hom a nasty reply. Then he can sit back and say, "SEE? She's a psycho!!!" And the ego boost he gets from pulling your string and getting you to answer is an added plus. Ignore him completely. It keeps you from getting sucked back into the drama and gives him the message that he no longer has any place in your life.
radiodarcy Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I got an email like this and I wish someone would have given me the advice I'm giving you right now. Do not reply. Do not comment on it anywhere but here. He wrote that trash for a reaction. He wants to justify his behavior by making you send hom a nasty reply. Then he can sit back and say, "SEE? She's a psycho!!!" And the ego boost he gets from pulling your string and getting you to answer is an added plus. Ignore him completely. It keeps you from getting sucked back into the drama and gives him the message that he no longer has any place in your life. ^^^^This. i have yet to hear from my ex after five months of NC but if i did - - i'm pretty sure it would be something along the lines of that letter your ex sent you. and for the same reasons shayla outlined above. chances are he's pissed off that you didn't come running after him when he pulled his disappearing act and is trying to bait you by sending you that email now. don't stoop to his level. ignore it. an email like that (especially one that was sent a month after the fact) doesn't even rate a response.
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