P&R Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Just curious, does anyone else out there find it a real stretch to think that a guy who is spending late hours at the office consistently and is asked by his girlfriend why he can't come home a bit early one night and he gets mad at her for asking that, could be POSSIBLY cheating? Not saying he is? Plus add on the fact that he just returned from a 9 day business trip with her and is not jumping at the chance to take off ONE hour earlier ONE night from working late to see her, and in fact snaps at her about it? Some people have demanding jobs, that's just how it is. As I said earlier probably has a huge backlog of work that he needs to catch up on. Coming home an hour early is probably not an option for him, especially if he is on salary instead of hourly wages.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 Some people have demanding jobs, that's just how it is. As I said earlier probably has a huge backlog of work that he needs to catch up on. Coming home an hour early is probably not an option for him, especially if he is on salary instead of hourly wages. He is on salary. He works right down the road from our condo, and often I will drop off something for him to eat, if he is working late. So this isn't something new..
P&R Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 He is on salary. He works right down the road from our condo, and often I will drop off something for him to eat, if he is working late. So this isn't something new.. My girlfriend is on salary and I know at my girlfriend will be in huge trouble if she doesn't get all of her work done. People at her work that have failed to meet a deadline have been fired and replaced immediately. She almost always gets off later than what she is supposed to.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 My girlfriend is on salary and I know at my girlfriend will be in huge trouble if she doesn't get all of her work done. People at her work that have failed to meet a deadline have been fired and replaced immediately. She almost always gets off later than what she is supposed to. My boyfriend has several people that work under him so not only does he have his own workload, he has to make sure they are doing their work too. Looking back I should have been more understanding about that.
P&R Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 My boyfriend has several people that work under him so not only does he have his own workload, he has to make sure they are doing their work too. Looking back I should have been more understanding about that. It's hard I know... I'd still talk to him about what he said, but also tell him you understand he has a lot on his plate. I know it's hard to have a SO gone for long periods of time.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 It's hard I know... I'd still talk to him about what he said, but also tell him you understand he has a lot on his plate. I know it's hard to have a SO gone for long periods of time. Just got off the phone with bf. I was surprised he called this evening, since I wasn't expecting to hear from him until he got home, tomorrow night. But sounded much more relaxed and was very interested in hearing what I did today and he apologized for ignoring my calls the other day. The first thing he asked when he called was "are you still angry with me?" I told him I wasn't, that I cooled off and I didn't want to focus that anymore. So we moved forward. He told me what he did and how his day went. And he asked me if I was going to be home tomorrow night. I told him I was going out for a little while. He will not be home until 11pm, since that is when his flight gets in anyway. He told me he still wants to continue with our plan this upcoming weekend to go snorkeling, so he seems to have cooled off as well. I feel a little better and we will see what happens.
Hot Chick Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 So when you are bringing him food, are you calling him first before bringing him dinner at work when he works late? If not, are you bringing it about the same time each evening? Because if you are, it's not hard to be composed when you get there.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 So when you are bringing him food, are you calling him first before bringing him dinner at work when he works late? If not, are you bringing it about the same time each evening? Because if you are, it's not hard to be composed when you get there. I'm sorry I'm not sure what you are talking about.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 So when you are bringing him food, are you calling him first before bringing him dinner at work when he works late? If not, are you bringing it about the same time each evening? Because if you are, it's not hard to be composed when you get there. Unless you have a different spin on things, I think I'm ok with anymore advice from you. thanks though.
Els Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 HotChick goes around insisting that the partners of everyone who posts on this board are cheating. So I wouldn't be too concerned if I were you.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 How come you are not going to wait for him at the airport? That's what I always did when having bfs that went on trips. And they did the same. Another question: during the 9 day absence were you in contact every day?
thatone Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 i'm guessing because she needs to keep convincing herself that she is right and he is wrong, which is probably why these arguments between her and the bf get started in the first place.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 How come you are not going to wait for him at the airport? That's what I always did when having bfs that went on trips. And they did the same. Another question: during the 9 day absence were you in contact every day? I wasn't able to bring him there, since I had to work. So he brought his car and its in the airport garage there. Yes we spoke everyday-night.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 i'm guessing because she needs to keep convincing herself that she is right and he is wrong, which is probably why these arguments between her and the bf get started in the first place. lol....ok.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 HotChick goes around insisting that the partners of everyone who posts on this board are cheating. So I wouldn't be too concerned if I were you. Is hotchick even a chick? Or a man-troll? I'm not concerned. Some people have nothing better to do!
Hot Chick Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 HotChick goes around insisting that the partners of everyone who posts on this board are cheating. So I wouldn't be too concerned if I were you. No, just making sure no stone goes unturned. Can you find another post where I am accusing someone of cheating? Let me know. I can assure you I am definitely female and not a troll. Lots of posters on here have been blindsighted by cheaters they thought were awesome and would never do that. Just saying.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 (edited) No, just making sure no stone goes unturned. Can you find another post where I am accusing someone of cheating? Let me know. I can assure you I am definitely female and not a troll. Lots of posters on here have been blindsighted by cheaters they thought were awesome and would never do that. Just saying. Ok well I stand corrected. Edited August 9, 2011 by CatNtheHat
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 another female with an extitlement complex. Well you seem quite obsessed with us "entitlement complex" types! lol:p
Sanman Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I have no idea if she has an entitlement complex. However, she seems quite happy about her man taking care of her and paying for things. Yet, when he has to work long hours to pay for these things she is unhappy about that as well. While I did not read the whole thread, it seems that he agreed to come home at 7 to have dinner and she was still unhappy. She seems to not realize that life is full of compromises and wants everything.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 I have no idea if she has an entitlement complex. However, she seems quite happy about her man taking care of her and paying for things. Yet, when he has to work long hours to pay for these things she is unhappy about that as well. While I did not read the whole thread, it seems that he agreed to come home at 7 to have dinner and she was still unhappy. She seems to not realize that life is full of compromises and wants everything. You should probably read the whole thread. He USUALLY gets home at 7, but this particular night, he was going to be working late. I'm not being "taken care of" btw. I work and also pay bills. You don't know me so please don't act like you do.
Sanman Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You should probably read the whole thread. He USUALLY gets home at 7, but this particular night, he was going to be working late. I'm not being "taken care of" btw. I work and also pay bills. You don't know me so please don't act like you do. You're supposed to work and pay bills...you want a cookie or something? You specifically stated in the other thread that your bf pays for all dates for you and it would be difficult to go back. So, he does pay for all of your dates and such.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 You're supposed to work and pay bills...you want a cookie or something? You specifically stated in the other thread that your bf pays for all dates for you and it would be difficult to go back. So, he does pay for all of your dates and such. well when you said "be taken care of" I surmised you meant living expenses as well. There really is no need to be sarcastic or hostile.
Sanman Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 well when you said "be taken care of" I surmised you meant living expenses as well. There really is no need to be sarcastic or hostile. Not trying to be hostile, but sarcastic is fun. You are the ones making assumptions about what I mean. For the record, paying all of your bills, recreational expenses, vacations is what single adults do. If the bf is relieving this burden from you, then you are being taken care of. I admitted I did not read the thread. However, my point still stands. You are requesting the guy work less and make more time for you, but you are also taking advantage of the financial benefits of all his work by letting him pay for your dates and recreation. I really do not think that is fair. Either let him know you would be happy to split those expenses in return for more time with him or let the man work so he can pay for you. He will have his own opinions and you may match up or not.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Not trying to be hostile, but sarcastic is fun. You are the ones making assumptions about what I mean. For the record, paying all of your bills, recreational expenses, vacations is what single adults do. If the bf is relieving this burden from you, then you are being taken care of. I admitted I did not read the thread. However, my point still stands. You are requesting the guy work less and make more time for you, but you are also taking advantage of the financial benefits of all his work by letting him pay for your dates and recreation. I really do not think that is fair. Either let him know you would be happy to split those expenses in return for more time with him or let the man work so he can pay for you. He will have his own opinions and you may match up or not. No I was not requesting he work less. It was one hour, one night. Anyway, the situation is better. Thanks for your feedback.
iJester Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 well when you said "be taken care of" I surmised you meant living expenses as well. There really is no need to be sarcastic or hostile. I was on the fence until reading this. He pays your way and you expect it, to the point that you even overlook it. That's the definition of entitlement.
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