sedona Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 On a break now, Day 6. My BF of 3 years started showing many of the signs of a commitmentphobe, and I finally told him not contact me until he either knew what he wanted with me or was on the way to finding out - like by having started therapy. If he does nothing, or not enough, by the end of November then I will take that as a sign that he no longer wants a relationship with me and it'll be over. He said that he loves me, and that I'll hear from him. I've tried everything else I could, and here is my last-ditch effort: give him his space and let him work it out. Or not. I've been working, reading, working out. Deciding what I want, etc. I think this was the only thing to do, so I don't regret it. But I'm still in shock and miss him so. No question, really. Just need some support. This is so hard.
Kilty Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Thats good of him saying that you will hear from him. How long are you going to allow this piece of string that he is dangling you from to go on - Sorry just re read your post - November ? Yeah thats just about the right time to waste your Christmas and New Year too If he doesnt know that he wants you now - are you going to let him sleep around some or the likes till he finally realises in an unknown amount of time that yeah he does really want to be with you ? Sorry - but thats not how it should work You gave him an ultimatum and he is having to think about it - tut Have some self respect and check out now - because the likelihood is that you wont hear from him and even if you do - 6 months from now you will be back here starting all over again Sorry thats not what you want to hear but thats what is called real support x
olivec Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 its true though, i thought giving my ex time or showing her how i felt about her would make her come to her senses. unfortunately it didnt work and i had to move on. Like others have said on this site its sad but you gotta do it if you wanna get better and find somebody worthy of you.
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