Keep Trying or Let it go?

[Bullet Proof]

So I met a guy online about 2 months ago. Went out on I'd say 10 or so dates. This is the guy that I thought was friend zoning me, or making just moving super slow!! No kissing or anything. Had fun while I was with him though, but I was confused I guess that he never made any moves.

 

I kinda gave up on him for a bit, talked here and there. Tuesday I talked with him online, and caught up. He said 'we haven't hung out in a while!' Then went on about how he was going to text me last weekend but saw I was busy working late (facebook). I agreed and said we would need to plan something. He never said anything else about planning anything. Later on in the conversation I said I would look and see if there is anything going on 'here' (this strip of restaurants/bars/clubs that is nearby) on the weekend. He then said he has have to go with a friend from work to a birthday thing or something, and then may go catch up with another friend in the army that he hasn't see in a while. I said Ok, well let me know, and that was that.

 

So what's the deal. Heard nothing back from him. Kinda mad too - I didn't wait around or stop from making plans, but I think this just confirms to me that he is NOT interested. What a bummer - seemed like a nice genuine guy too! I feel like if he contacts me again to get together I should just say no? I'm looking to get into a relationship, and getting sick of all these dates going no where.

Edited August 6, 2011 by Bullet Proof

[murrpanda]

10 dates and he never made a move?! I would definitely assume you've been friend zoned. If I'm interested in a guy and he doesn't make a move by the 2nd date, I'll do it. He sounds like he's a lot more interested in friendship. If you're not convinced, maybe when you see him next (or talk to him) ask if you two are "on the same page". Simply ask what he's looking for.

 

Sucks when you like a guy and then realize they're not interested. I know the feeling