Easyguy14 Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 dont get it?? at work yesterday and during my break, a secretary got mad with me for no apparent reason. she made remarks about my gray scrubs are so morbid looking, even though Im an undertaker in a funeral home and why am I always looking out the window at people as they walk by. her tone was annoying and jabbing and when I asked her whats wrong she just rolls her eyes. this woman is in her early 30s similar to me. when I went back to clean up in the prep room, I told my coworker about it and he laughed, claiming she had a crush on me. I scratched my head. also sometime during my breaks or in-between projects at work, I go to subway to grab a bite and there's a young woman behind the register I'd say in her early 20s acting snotty only to me with snide remarks and a attitude for nothing. others are not getting this treatment. please refer to my other thread about similar nonsense. earlier today while on the phone with a female friend, she asked me how the women were treating me since Im still a single guy, and when I told her about these incidents, she laughed and said they like you, that's why. huh?
Fondue Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 I would be confused, too. Man, I would definitely assume that I'm disliked by those women if they treated me that way. I would definitely throw it back at them though. I can't stand douchers.
Woggle Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 For any woman here thinking about trying this strategy. It doesn't work.
WhyWontYouBe Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 For any woman here thinking about trying this strategy. It doesn't work. hahaahhahaha
ScreamingTrees Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 I had a similar situation recently. I used to go to this fast food place near my house and this girl would always do or say something playful and catch me off guard, so I'd just stand there awkwardly not sure what to do.. I was planning on working at this place long before she did, and when I finally got the job and went in for my first day, she totally ignored me, gave me this creepy bug eyed emotionless stare and after several days became very confrontational. I asked one of the managers about it after I decided to quit, and she said that the girl said she has a big problem with "lazy" people. Even though I was doing 85% of the bull**** physical labor that had nothing to do with my position. Apparently I had to bust my ass indefinitely to "earn" the right to be lazy and take little breaks when nothing was going on. Whatever. My mother thought it sounded like the girl liked me, and if she did, she sure did have a weird way of showing it with her utter bitchiness. I saw her flirting with some other dude who worked there who I knew was already with someone anyway, so she probably has no class and just does it for attention or whatever reason she might have in that messed up little brain of her's.. The manager also said she's got anger problems, go figure.
Author Easyguy14 Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 I had a similar situation recently. I used to go to this fast food place near my house and this girl would always do or say something playful and catch me off guard, so I'd just stand there awkwardly not sure what to do.. I was planning on working at this place long before she did, and when I finally got the job and went in for my first day, she totally ignored me, gave me this creepy bug eyed emotionless stare and after several days became very confrontational. I asked one of the managers about it after I decided to quit, and she said that the girl said she has a big problem with "lazy" people. Even though I was doing 85% of the bull**** physical labor that had nothing to do with my position. Apparently I had to bust my ass indefinitely to "earn" the right to be lazy and take little breaks when nothing was going on. Whatever. My mother thought it sounded like the girl liked me, and if she did, she sure did have a weird way of showing it with her utter bitchiness. I saw her flirting with some other dude who worked there who I knew was already with someone anyway, so she probably has no class and just does it for attention or whatever reason she might have in that messed up little brain of her's.. The manager also said she's got anger problems, go figure. bad experience for you there. I agree that its the wrong way to attract a man by behaving that way. not sure why any woman would resort to that but Im guessing that there's some insecurities at work in not knowing if he likes them or not. this would come from lack of relationships & games. another idea that crossed my mind is a defense mechanism. its still weird. I sometimes see on tv shows when a woman would give a guy a hard time that she was interested in until he persisted past her built-around wall.
ScreamingTrees Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Could be. Then again, I've got no insecurities that take hold of my everyday life at this point in my life (I'd gotten over them all on my own), I have no emotional baggage, and I'm not into immaturity and game playing. As a fairly emotionally and mentally healthy human being, I'd rather avoid someone who isn't likewise. I think that's fair enough, as I don't really have any other "requirements" besides them not being morbidly obese because I'm active. You're probably right, because I used to have bouts of Social Anxiety that would stop me from going in public places because I'd usually just look odd (I couldn't control my eyes and I'd have to close them, or I'd sweat or turn red or something because of the paranoid thoughts I'd have about what other people are thinking or seeing in me) and I can still be a bit socially awkward because of my nerves.. So I'm not exactly the "smooth operator" that I could potentially be unless I'm comfortable with my surroundings and who I happen to be around. Then I'm more articulate and relaxed so I'm not as stiff and clumsy. She probably saw me as a normal guy and tried flirting, and when I didn't respond like she'd have wanted because I had no idea what she was doing, she possibly figured I was a stuck up jerk.. ? I don't know. That's the closest to a valid reason that I could muster, but then again, she might've just been a bitch and was just playing around, who really knows..
Professor X Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 bad experience for you there. I agree that its the wrong way to attract a man by behaving that way. not sure why any woman would resort to that but Im guessing that there's some insecurities at work in not knowing if he likes them or not. this would come from lack of relationships & games. another idea that crossed my mind is a defense mechanism. its still weird. I sometimes see on tv shows when a woman would give a guy a hard time that she was interested in until he persisted past her built-around wall. It's not that type of defense mechanism what they are showing you. They are either just evil, there's something you're not telling us or they just had a bad day. Either way, they are NOT into you.
LoveandSuch Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 dont get it?? at work yesterday and during my break, a secretary got mad with me for no apparent reason. she made remarks about my gray scrubs are so morbid looking, even though Im an undertaker in a funeral home and why am I always looking out the window at people as they walk by. her tone was annoying and jabbing and when I asked her whats wrong she just rolls her eyes. this woman is in her early 30s similar to me. when I went back to clean up in the prep room, I told my coworker about it and he laughed, claiming she had a crush on me. I scratched my head. also sometime during my breaks or in-between projects at work, I go to subway to grab a bite and there's a young woman behind the register I'd say in her early 20s acting snotty only to me with snide remarks and a attitude for nothing. others are not getting this treatment. please refer to my other thread about similar nonsense. earlier today while on the phone with a female friend, she asked me how the women were treating me since Im still a single guy, and when I told her about these incidents, she laughed and said they like you, that's why. huh? I can only speak for myself, but I would never make those remarks to anyone, regardless of the fact if I liked them or not, but would never be rude to someone I was really into. Snide is completely different than playfully teasing.
Author Easyguy14 Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 I can only speak for myself, but I would never make those remarks to anyone, regardless of the fact if I liked them or not, but would never be rude to someone I was really into. Snide is completely different than playfully teasing. yes if they know you like that. in the past I've dated a few women that had a wall up initially. they weren't rude and nasty but just serious and did not smile or talk much in the beginning. over time they loosened out some and became good girlfriends for that period. they turned out to be alright. I think most women have a built-in wall around them that they keep up to prevent being taken advantage of. only certain men can bust through it if she allows.
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