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So it's been four weeks since my ex bf broke things off with me. It was for all good reasons and it probably wouldn't have worked out anyway with where we stand in our lives at this point. I rationally know we're better off this way. I've been doing NC for 20 days and I'm pretty proud that I never really pondered breaking it, though I've been wishing for him to contact me which is most likely not going to happen since I've been very clear about the fact that I do not want any contact with an ex until I've fully moved on. And I'm not anwhere close to this right now.

Anyways besides some ups and downs, some lonely nights, and silent cries when something reminded me of him, I've been doing pretty well. I finished off my exams fairly well considering the circumstances. I had my friends surround me and support me.

Now it's summer time and I'm at my parents' house. They live in the countryside. And there's literally nothing to do here. The next neighbour is 2 kilometers away. There is no one to keep my company other than our dog. There's just nature and nothing to do. My mind wanders off to him all the time and I've only been here for 2 days. I sit in the garden, I go for long walks, I go running, I read books, the newspaper, I cook dinner, but I can't get him off my mind. It sucks. He's been here with me once for 2 days in winter, but it's so different in summer. I wanted to show him. We had so many plans. I know he's working his summer job in the nearest city which is just about 25 kilometers away. We had those plans what we would do here that he would come see me in the evenings, that we would spend the weekends in the wilderness of this place. Now I'm walking through the fields alone thinking about how beautiful this could have been.

I will spend four weeks here, I usually enjoy how quiet and peaceful this place is, but right now it's driving me crazy. I miss him and I wish things would be different. I know it can't be. But it's so hard to move on when you have nothing you could do.

 

Any ideas how to survive the next few weeks here?

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So it's been four weeks since my ex bf broke things off with me. It was for all good reasons and it probably wouldn't have worked out anyway with where we stand in our lives at this point. I rationally know we're better off this way. I've been doing NC for 20 days and I'm pretty proud that I never really pondered breaking it, though I've been wishing for him to contact me which is most likely not going to happen since I've been very clear about the fact that I do not want any contact with an ex until I've fully moved on. And I'm not anwhere close to this right now.

Anyways besides some ups and downs, some lonely nights, and silent cries when something reminded me of him, I've been doing pretty well. I finished off my exams fairly well considering the circumstances. I had my friends surround me and support me.

Now it's summer time and I'm at my parents' house. They live in the countryside. And there's literally nothing to do here. The next neighbour is 2 kilometers away. There is no one to keep my company other than our dog. There's just nature and nothing to do. My mind wanders off to him all the time and I've only been here for 2 days. I sit in the garden, I go for long walks, I go running, I read books, the newspaper, I cook dinner, but I can't get him off my mind. It sucks. He's been here with me once for 2 days in winter, but it's so different in summer. I wanted to show him. We had so many plans. I know he's working his summer job in the nearest city which is just about 25 kilometers away. We had those plans what we would do here that he would come see me in the evenings, that we would spend the weekends in the wilderness of this place. Now I'm walking through the fields alone thinking about how beautiful this could have been.

I will spend four weeks here, I usually enjoy how quiet and peaceful this place is, but right now it's driving me crazy. I miss him and I wish things would be different. I know it can't be. But it's so hard to move on when you have nothing you could do.

 

Any ideas how to survive the next few weeks here?

 

Well done for not breaking NC!

I feel your pain, I really do..I had so many plans for the summer with my ex and when I go to places where we were meant to go together the first thing I think is 'She should be here with me' But after weeks of doing that I thought 'she isn't going to ruin my summer!' Don't let your ex spoil your time at your parents house, you normally love it so do just that, love it!

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Go camping alone.

 

Some of the best thinking time I"ve spent has been out under the stars.

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