i think its my looks that causd me to have failed , shortlivd r/s time and time again

[dumpedandsore]

i have been trying to find a meaningful r/s

but i never get it

 

the men who got together with me, came in fast, then dumped me and disappeared from my life forever.

 

Yet, they seem to be really in love with the other ladies in their lives. I think they werent in love with me in the first place, or liked me in that manner. Hence, when we quarrelled or had a break-up, they move on without any bitterness or sadness.

 

i reckoned its my looks that deterred these guys from really liking/loving me.

[smudge21]

Have you thought it may just be them that's the problem, or that it's a fact that sometimes people just don't get along. You're being very self critical based on what's happened in the past.

 

You mention looks, are you saying you believe yourself ugly or maybe too pretty. I know someone who goes through similar - attracts certain types (she is very pretty and has, erm, enhancements, if you get me) that only see her on the outside. To them she's more of a trophy, rather than anything to be serious with. The relationships are usually short and without feelings.

 

I'll tell you what I told her: if this keeps happening then it's not you, but the circles you're meeting these guys in. Try and find out what the connection is between all these guys. Is it their age, their background, their lifestyle. Whatever it is, just don't ever suspect the problem is always yours.