antinko Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 (edited) Greetings people of the LS. I am not drunk, nor am I experiencing the effects of any hallucinogenic or mind expanding drugs. No, I am just being me and 'me' has decided something which I wish to share with you. Before I continue, I will say that I held fire on saying what I'm about to say below for a few days because I wanted to be properly sure I believed it, and I do. So... Most of us here have been dumped. 'Dumped', a word which has connotations of physically being dropped in with the rubbish, trash, garbage etc. 'Dumped', also with connotations of being literally excreted (from the relationship) by your ex...because they have reasons. They think they can do 'better'. 'Being dumped' is an awful phrase just like 'being finished'. Hm, 'finished'. I never played Mortal Kombat much, but 'being finished' suggests images of literally being killed at the end of the relationship, like the dumpee is 'dead' to the dumper. These phrases do, however, sum up the multitude of horrific feelings the dumpee experiences post-break up...well if you think figuratively anyway. Well, all I can say to that is that it's their loss. If you gave your best during the relationship, put them first, was always considerate etc. etc. then you have no right to feel bad. You did great and they're losing someone wonderful by moving on. I'm not going to try and describe love. Good writers keep trying to do that and don't get very close, but it is my opinion that, if you were the dumpee, then you were giving more love in the relationship and so your ex doesn't deserve that love, that esteem, that consideration if they've chosen to leave you. Take some deep breaths and repeat after me: "I am awesome. I am awesome because I love(d) somebody. I am capable of loving. I am a loving individual. I'm like the Justice League, The Avengers...I'm freakin' Superman/Superwoman...sans super powers...but I am capable of love and not everyone is! Huzzah!" If indeed you do have super powers, then your awesome level is increased by at least 10%, but for the rest of us mortals, the point is that, while we're hurting right now, many of us going round and round and round in circles, grieving, we're going to learn from this experience. If you were capable of loving your ex, then you're certainly capable of loving somebody who will be better for you; know this. If you learn and grow from your experiences, then you won't need aforementioned super powers because you'll have bettered yourself; you'll have respected yourself; you'll be capable of respecting yourself and you won't make the same mistakes again. Never settle for second best. Always believe in yourself. Eat well. Stay safe. Keep fit. Don't abuse others. Most of all, keep feeling. I am a slightly eccentric man and I'm thinking about each and every one of us right now. Have a spectacular day. - Antinko Edited August 6, 2011 by antinko
Arikel Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 QFT! Thanks for an inspiring post. Comes at a good time
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