rosie72 Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 My ex (god it kills me to write that i cant accept it yet) has not even moved out yet.. The reason is he/we are waiting until our boy has started at his new school in september before we tell him we are splitting up. My fear is that if we tell him now/right before he starts then it will make what's already a nerve wracking time downright impossible. he's nervous and stressed about the change already. Meanwhile, I am in a world of pain, my partner is detaching himself emotionally from me day by day - becoming colder, wont look me in the eye, wont speak to me hardly at all. I on the other hand, am stupidly seeing this as a period of time where i may be able to 'change his mind' and get him to stay. I am a wreck - begging, crying, angry, and not even beginning to accept he is going. I asked him outright if he will give his me and his family just one chance to fix things but he says no, it would only be a lie. I am behaving stupidly and without dignity, its making him angry but i cant help it. I love him so much and i'm terrifed of a life alone without him. So... all the time he is still here i am clinging desperately hoping this will all 'go away'. I cant move on until he is out of the house. It is killing me. I realise once he is gone at last i will hopefully be able to start the work of healing, though i dread thatday so much i'm having panic attacks. What can we do? How can i wait until the autumn like this? Should we just tell our son now or should we wait? If we wait, how can we act, what must i do?
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