zlatnapolja Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Broke up with my BF a week ago, ever since he has been calling me a lot, texting me etc. Tonight I answered the phone... I'm kind of at a point where I feel like I could go on without him. I feel like I deserve and want better. I also dont care anymore wheather I'm right and he's wrong. I just think we have different norms, values, sence of right and wrong. (see following post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t289230/) Today he called me and surprise surprise, told me he want me back. He says he really loves me and want to live together ASAP, get married, have childeren etc. I asked him 'dont you think this would be the worst possible time to ask me to live together?'. I also told him: I dont want to blame you for anything, I just think that you have different values etc than I have, and thats not necessarily wrong, however to me its important that (in this area of life) you have the same morals, values as I have. He told me that he thaught it was stupid of him, but that it wasnt his intension, that he was very enthousiastic about this vacation (???!!!!!!!!!!). Than we talked about another big problem we had (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t289106/), I told him I cant live with this either. He said he didnt want to talk about the girl, but that he would never want to be with her. I told him, you promissed me about 12 times you'd break contact, and you broke the promiss over and over again, I cant trust you anymore. He asked me if he could come with me for my MRI on Monday, I told him I'd rather he didnt but that I would think about it. He kept telling me that he would never abbandon me like that ever again, but i dont know if I can believe that (my guess is no). He told me if he doesnt marry me, that he doesnt ever want to marry anyone else, I'm the love of his life. The thing is... In a way I believe HE believes this, on the other hand, i dont think that on the long term he'll be able to live up to his promisses and statements etc. For instance, I dont think he really wants to live together. I mean sure, he has asked me before, but even back then I didnt believe he really wanted this. So... where do I go from here?
SlowBlues Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 I think you're still experiencing a lot of different emotions from the break up. I think that you guys need to not talk for a while, for both of your sakes. Everything is extremely fresh right now and I think you both need to take time to yourselves to let things settle so that you can see things more clearly. I would suggest the next time he contacts you, tell him that you'd like to request that you two not remain in contact for a while. It's just too hard to think rationally about things this soon after the break up. In the meantime, reflect upon what you really want, and take time for yourself to do things that make you happy. Hope this helps.
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