Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Dearest LSers, I'm a little drunk, and severely tempted to write the girl I was involved with. Going to try and resist the urge - thought it would be fun (or sanity saving?) to come up with a list of things we can all do to to prevent ourselves from breaking NC when the urge comes on strong.... First on the list: Put an inane post on the coping thread about how you want to break NC but WON'T... by thunder! Next?
Author Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 Stop drinking and then...? First time I've been drunk in over six months, I'm giving myself a freebie. #2 on the list: PM Wilson x with my location and freetime (jealous, ladies?) #3 Write in my journal
1Dunno Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 stop drinking This. Drinking usually makes me think about her more and get more depressed.
Author Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 #5 Watch free episodes of survivorman on youtube.
Graceful Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Send out more youtube videos. You've posted some nice ones, and I have not had time to tell you. I loved the Pablo Neruda poem read by Andy Garcia. I'm one of the few females on the planet who is not into poetry (I am a music fanatic, though), but I did learn of Neruda when some of his work was set to music by Peter Lieberson. Write a poem about your strength and survival. Have a movie marathon. Escape into a good book. Buy a Nook or Kindle. Know and remember that your ex is not right for you and does not understand you. And never will. Someone else will understand you. Have faith and trust in the path that will bring you to that person. Post on LS any time of day or night. It's cost-effective, non-toxic, and you'll always find a kindred spirit here. Is that enough ideas for now?
sun_moon Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 As stated by Grace: 6. Post on Youtube 7. Write a poem 8. Movie marathon ( me likes this one ) 9. READ books 10. Remind yourself ex is no good for you 11. post on LS As stated by Arikel: 12. Read horror stories on LS when people break NC. Stated by me: 13. Call a friend or family member instead. OR text/IM/email the friend/family member. 14. Take a walk. 15. Go to the gym. 16. Journal your thoughts as if your talking to the ex. 17. Watch stupid **** on YOUTUBE lol 18. shop (uh oh ehehhe) 19. If you have just finished going out with friends and drinking, and are having the lonely thoughts, as you have experienced, stay on the phone with a friend till you fall asleep, or watch something funny on Hulu to combat your vulnerability. 20. Self coach ( I love this one because it is more affective than I thought and it empowers your and boosts your confidence)
Author Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 As stated by Grace: 20. Self coach ( I love this one because it is more affective than I thought and it empowers your and boosts your confidence) Could you elaborate on this point? 21 - Brush your teeth
TheVSilent Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 I feel so dead without her, the only thing I want to do is cry and sleep, and it has been 3 months. This sucks.
sun_moon Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 20. Self coach ( I love this one because it is more affective than I thought and it empowers your and boosts your confidence) Telling yourself all the good reasons as to why you are better off. I.e. if you were cheated on, you tell yourself, I am so glad that is over, I just saved myself from a life time of infidelity,etc, etc... Motivating yourself with positive feedback and affirmations, telling yourself its going to be ok. Not beating yourself up when you make a mistake (ie breaking NC) but learning from it. Recognizing your improvements and reminding yourself of the long journey you have gone through.
Author Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 (edited) I feel so dead without her, the only thing I want to do is cry and sleep, and it has been 3 months. This sucks. Stress Sleeping is actually an avoidance behavior - not that there's anything wrong with that necessarily. I hope you feel better soon - it's going to get less painful. Don't be afraid to face the pain, cry it out, and eventually you'll be ready to get back on your feet. - Thanks Sun_Moon Edited August 6, 2011 by Nohbody
Author Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 22 Get on your old Myspace Account (yeah, you!) and 'browse people' that happen to be your sexual preference and your ideal age, height, weight, etc. I'm going to hell.
Dua Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Listen to music! Also, re-read your journal/log...this helps a lot as it reminds me how far i have come or how bad i felt the last time i broke NC
Author Nohbody Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 24 - Read about conspiracy theories and bigfoot
bikinibeach Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 - JOIN MOODGYM omg helping me so much http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome - lookup conspiracy theories on colorado airport (freaky) - think about how you don't want to waste your last bit of time on the planet thinking about your retard ex (countdown to 2012) - join NETFLIX (such an awesome deal....loving the documentaries and horror) - apply for dream jobs you think you have NO CHANCE of getting and see what happens - enter contests ( i recently won an all expenses paid trip..um woohoo!!!!) - let people on ls know if wilsonx does bear any resemblance to clive owen - start a blog
bikinibeach Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Masturbate? this tends to make me feel worse after. can youporn seriously compete with strong warm hands on your body? sometimes. but not often. lol
Author Nohbody Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 35 - Spin around in a circle until you want to fall over.
Arikel Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Telling yourself all the good reasons as to why you are better off. I.e. if you were cheated on, you tell yourself, I am so glad that is over, I just saved myself from a life time of infidelity,etc, etc... Motivating yourself with positive feedback and affirmations, telling yourself its going to be ok. Not beating yourself up when you make a mistake (ie breaking NC) but learning from it. Recognizing your improvements and reminding yourself of the long journey you have gone through. So true! I keep telling myself that every single day.
Ddeepprreesseedd Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Pursue a degree; another bachelor's, a master, doctoral, post-doc. It is very challenging while working full time and you simply have no time to think although you may break down from time to time and lot of feelings may surface that may knock you out for days.
Graceful Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 38. Guy version of "retail therapy" -- whatever that is. New gadget, new kitchen appliance if you like to cook, video game, new running shoes, etc. Depends on what you consider a "treat." (BTW, I have to laugh at myself for not noticing there was a numbering scheme here -- I'm not hard core left-brained, and not a linear thinker, so didn't even notice. Thanks sun-moon for putting my suggestions into the numbering scheme!) 39. Keep tabs on the news in your city, region, or national scene. It will humble you and help you realize that your troubles are all part of the human condition, there are people suffering worse than you are, and help put your life into perspective. You have a roof over your head? You know where you next meal is coming from? You've been humbled worse than your breakup, perhaps? Not to be trite here, but a look at the "big picture" can and does help.
SillyS Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Enjoy you time. Relationships are great as they are, require so much time. So when we are single voluntarily or against our will, we have to just enjoy "you time". 40. Reconnect with other things you used to love and haven't done for a while due to lack of time. I love football, Premier/Eredivisie/Serie A. I'm gonna watch more when it comes back, go a few games even when the season starts back up. No one making us feel bad about catching a game or two or wanting us to talk when obviously the Milan derby is on. And I'm a girl, so my guy used to make me feel bad about football! Just ridic! 41. Clean up around the apartment, house or room. Just start to do things that show result, if you clean for an hour, then your room is clean. If its clean then rearrange things or paint the room etc.
sun_moon Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 @ Grace ahahhaha, no problem, I just figured it would be easier to keep this thread going. The controlling OCD part of me was coming out...apologies... Oh and I like your number 39. your basically reminding yourself that you are one small spec in the universe. 42. Go over all the things you are thankful and grateful for your life: its called the gratitude list, and the more time passes as you heal, the longer this list should get.
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