cutily Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Well, I crossed a line today and my soul is damned now. I took my phone and called the girlfriend of my dear friend, she wanted to know the truth, like she asked it several times, anyway I wanted to tell her, she is 8 months pregnant, and she has to know who she will raise a baby with. I told her everything but told her that we ended being just friends like I had previously told her. She was relieved to know the truth but hurt because he had lied several times to her. She was lost, and at this moment I felt really bad I stayed half an hour on the phone trying to comfort her and tell her that he loved her, and that she could hate me as much as she wanted, but she had to take care of herself and the baby. I feel like a horrible person for having hurt this poor girl, but at the same time, at 19 you really don't deserve to be stuck with a guy who cheated on you during your pregnancy.
Author cutily Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 No we weren't talking anymore. But he called me just after to tell me that I was a selfish crazy b**ch. But she told she had doubts, she thought he wasn't telling the truth so I gave the whole truth (minus some things she didn't need to know). I also learnt that she was confused when she got pregnant and HE wanted to keep it. Now she is stuck.
whichwayisup Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 No we weren't talking anymore. But he called me just after to tell me that I was a selfish crazy b**ch. But she told she had doubts, she thought he wasn't telling the truth so I gave the whole truth (minus some things she didn't need to know). I also learnt that she was confused when she got pregnant and HE wanted to keep it. Now she is stuck. She isn't stuck. She can end it and raise her child without him if he doesn't want to be in the kids life. She can still get child support from him too, but she doesn't have to stay with him out of pressure or guilt because he is the father of their baby. I'm sure he threw you under the bus, told her tons of lies and exaggerated truths to protect his lying ass. I just hope that the A is over and you tell him to go F himself if he tries to re start things with you in the future (some do this after a period of time goes by).
Author cutily Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 No it was over over, and I think he just wants to kill me right now. I am happy because I realize he lied to me too, just to protect himself, I really hope she will dump his ass!! That's sad for the baby but at the same Time they've only been together for 9 months (ohhh gosh, what a mess!!!!) and she shouldn't be staying in that kind of relationship.
fooled once Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 How long were you having an affair with him? I don't mean that nasty, but you are saying she has only been with him 9 months and implying she can easily be done with him. What caused your affair to end? Did you decide to end it because he wasn't leaving her? She may choose to forgive him. I am glad you told her most of the truth. You say there were things she didn't need to know; but again, you are making that decision for her. Whatever she decides, I hope she can grow from this experience and take care of herself and her baby. If she chooses to forgive him, I hope he spends the rest of his life making it up to her for cheating on her. I am glad you are owning your part in this and no, your soul is not damned. We all make wrong choices; the key is to not keep repeating them
Author cutily Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 She just called me and put me on speakers for him to hear. This a****le kept denying; I swear I would go and kill him! The poor girl was begging him! So we started talking at the end of March and I decided to remain friend in June. Before starting to talk we were staring at each other for 1 months and a half. But he was trying to find a breach touching me and telling me things. And his girlfrind was reading his texts so at one point we had to stop. I feel bad now, because it's too much right now for her, she shouldn't be put under so much stress while being 8 months pregnant. I don't understand why he cannot just tell the truth!
bentnotbroken Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 She just called me and put me on speakers for him to hear. This a****le kept denying; I swear I would go and kill him! The poor girl was begging him! So we started talking at the end of March and I decided to remain friend in June. Before starting to talk we were staring at each other for 1 months and a half. But he was trying to find a breach touching me and telling me things. And his girlfrind was reading his texts so at one point we had to stop. I feel bad now, because it's too much right now for her, she shouldn't be put under so much stress while being 8 months pregnant. I don't understand why he cannot just tell the truth! Because he is a punk coward with the morals of a toad and the backbone of a jelly fish. If gives not a damn about her being pregnant or even in pain. People like him deserve to have their punk donkey butts kicked to high heaven and then back again.
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