U1987 Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 My relationship with my ex-girlfriend is somewhat similar to the main character's relationship to his ex-wife in Bright Lights, Big City (except not as coke-addled or dysfunctional). My ex girlfriend, who I dated from beginning to the end of 2009, is a stage actress and a model (nothing big or famous, just small local gigs). She was gorgeous, but I was always slightly self conscious dating her; I was just a slightly nerdy/eccentric premed student while she was a 10. Plus, I was always slightly jealous; Not of all the attention she would get from guys all the time (I've always been trusting and non-nonchalant with my girlfriends about that sort of thing). Instead, I was jealous of the the fact that she was way more popular than I ever was. When we weren't out together, she was always getting invited to shows and events and parties and meeting lots and lot of cool people while I was spending my nights on my own studying or working. I got to go a couple of times, but many times they were invitation only. Anyway,we broke up at the end of 2009, but have still talked and hanged out ever since. She's dating someone significantly older and more successful than me right now (I suspect a sugar-daddy type of relationship going on) but I'm past that and don't have any illusions of trying to win her back. Anyway, since then, all of my friends have graduated and moved to other parts of the country. My one remaining friend who stayed behind is kind of a bad influence; all he ever wants to do is stay in, drink, do drugs and play video games, so I've been growing away from him. My social and dating life have completely evaporated, but she's just as socially active as ever. She just acts and models as a hobby now, since she got a career in accounting, but she still gets invited out to events and parties and so on all the time. I'd still really like to get a shot at the social scene she's into. Anyway, my birthday is coming up in a few days. She offered to meet up and buy me a drink at a small, quiet upscale lounge downtown. When we meet up, how is the best way to ask her to help me meet girls?
Author U1987 Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 Forgot to mention, I don't want her to play matchmaker or set me up with anyone. I want a wingwoman for when we go out. I want someone I can go to a nightclub to and serve as some of these fuctions. 1) Someone to be seen by other women with, so as to stimulate a sense of competition in girls I'm interested in talking to. 2) Someone to dare, challenge and possibly even threaten me into talking to other girls. This is something that is, believe it or not, really hard to self-motivate yourself to do when you're out on your own. 3) Someone to practice and exchange ideas with, for conversation topics, opening lines and such. 4) Someone to take note of and judge my body language, posture, voice intonation, facial expressions and so forth when talking to a particular girl for the first time. 5) Someone to take over the conversation when an awkward silence comes up and I have to take a moment to think of something interesting to say.
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 You already had this selfsame thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261041/
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