layercakegal Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Hi guys, my boyfriend broke up with me last weekend. we have been fighting pretty much all of our relationship (4 years) and in the end he just got sick of it, and it wasn't working. i think he's emotionally detached from me (he never was an emotional person) and because he was the one that was getting really sick of it all, i feel he kinda checked out of the relationship a while go, and now i am left hurting and heartbroken (even though I've known it wasn't right). We nearly broke up two weeks ago, and he was more adamant that it was never going to work than hes ever been before. We sat together, he cried, i cried, he said he didn't want to see me upset and felt awful, he held me. but once again i convinced him that it could all work out. Friday night, we had an argument. He gave some well reasoned points on why the thing i was mad at him for wasn't really fair (i wanted him to come out for a drink with my workmates after he finished at 11pm, he said he was in his work clothes, had a big bag of stuff with him, that he had met them before and that there would be other opportunities). i realised at one point that he was probably right and stopped the argument going any further. one of my friends that night, quite innocently asked what i would say if he proposed. i mentioned this to him, and he said we would get engaged eventually, i pushed him and made a stupid comment, he said that there was really no point in talking about engagement because we had nearly broken up so recently, and that i couldnt help bringing this stuff up because i needed reassurance all the time that things were fine, and that he was getting tired of it. i said that did he realise he had said that a lot lately (e.g. 'you keep doing this, and im getting tired of it'), he didnt text back, i text him trying to move on saying how was work, he didnt text back again - he changed his facebook picture from me and him to something else when he got home (still hadnt texted back) and i text him again saying stop being silly and lets make up. i went on a day trip the next day, and when it got to about 5pm and he still hadnt texted, i text him saying can we please stop being silly and make up because not texting stresses me out (it really does and he knows it, im a person that needs to fix things asap). he text back saying he wasnt being silly and hes done. i text him a few more texts, saying that i promised to stop arguing, bringing up things just to get a reaction and to get him to reassure me, saying that i would make it work. he reiterated the same thing: he was done, he'd had enough, and he meant it. he asked me to stop texting because of this. my last text said that i would stop texting but that if he let me i could make it work for us. we had a holiday booked, and i went to see about cancelling it the next day - we would lose nearly all of our money. i checked with my mum about if i should tell him - i typed a well reasoned and calm text saying that i know he said not to text but that id gone to the travel agent that day and that if we really couldnt work it out, we would lose all the money on the holiday, and perhaps hoping this would bring him round. but he text back the same cold, short text - he didnt want to go on holiday, that i should just cancel it, that he was done. i didnt reply as i was so upset. that was monday. tuesday i come home from work, and about 6.30 that evening he changes his facebook status to single. i cried again, so much, as its never got this far before. ive always stopped it. now its friday night, and i still havent heard from him. hes been on facebook a few times, been to the cinema, and because hes not an emotional person, and hes very stubborn, even if he had calmed down and even maybe thought he'd made a mistake, he wouldnt come back. i'm so devastated, i dont know what to do i want him back he always loved me for exactly who i was and i always wanted to change him and was picking faults
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