JMW Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Hi, basically just want some advice on my current situation. I have been in a four year relationship and we have a child - he ended it back in May and starting seeing someone else instantly ( he was a serial cheater throughout our relationship but would not admit to it all) when he left and started seeing this other woman he would constantly tell me how he made a mistake and that I was the one he truly loved. He has now seperated from the woman and has said he'd like to come home - do you think he will ever stop cheating maybe losing us gave him a hard awakening, or do you think I'd be an idiot to even consider letting him come home and maybe carrying on with his cheating ways? Thanks x
John Michael Kane Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Hi, basically just want some advice on my current situation. I have been in a four year relationship and we have a child - he ended it back in May and starting seeing someone else instantly ( he was a serial cheater throughout our relationship but would not admit to it all) when he left and started seeing this other woman he would constantly tell me how he made a mistake and that I was the one he truly loved. He has now seperated from the woman and has said he'd like to come home - do you think he will ever stop cheating maybe losing us gave him a hard awakening, or do you think I'd be an idiot to even consider letting him come home and maybe carrying on with his cheating ways? Thanks x If you know he's nothing but a serial cheater, why entertain the thought of bringing that filth back into your sanctuary?
PegNosePete Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 You'd be an idiot to even consider letting him come home. He will do it again and again and again if you let him.
road Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Being you have a child together I would tell him you are open to him coming back but not until he sends the OW a NC letter. Then he must tell his parents in front of you that he cheated and apologize to them and you. Then a repeat performance in front of yours. Next he must go for IC to see if he can get a handle on his cheating ways. While in IC you can agree to date him once the IC thinks he's ready. Do not let him move in until IC says he's ok for that. Once he agrees to all this then he must from that point on to live as an open book so you can verify no inappropiate contact. He must give all passwords to all of his internet apps, his phone. Then put a keylogger on the home pc without telling him so you can verify any nonsense.
bentnotbroken Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 You do know he can have a relationship his child without having one with you. Question? Do you mind playing Russian roulette with your life?
reboot Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 You called him a "serial cheater" in your post. I have no idea if our definition of that is the same or not. While I'm not one who believes the old "once a cheater, always a cheater", IME, once a serial cheater, always a serial cheater. They rarely change.
Memphis Raines Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Hi, basically just want some advice on my current situation. I have been in a four year relationship and we have a child - he ended it back in May and starting seeing someone else instantly ( he was a serial cheater throughout our relationship but would not admit to it all) when he left and started seeing this other woman he would constantly tell me how he made a mistake and that I was the one he truly loved. He has now seperated from the woman and has said he'd like to come home - do you think he will ever stop cheating maybe losing us gave him a hard awakening, or do you think I'd be an idiot to even consider letting him come home and maybe carrying on with his cheating ways? Thanks x youd be an idiot to take him back. (not saying you are, but you asked the question) he may be fine for a while, but the itch to have sex with someone new will hit him sooner or later.
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