Amanda327 Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Hi there.. Im new at this so bare with me. My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs, married for 6. We met when I was 14. We have one daughter together. About 3 months ago I left and moved in with my aunt while he stayed in our house. I filed for divorced because at the time I thought we were done. We were always fighting and we didnt want our daughter around it. We also separated for 2 months this time last year got back together said we were going to do counseling but never did and ended up in this situation. We hadn't spoken about us or our relationship for 2 months, just about our daughter until now. i recently discovered that I still love him deeply. We have a lot of history behind us and have been through Hell and back. I Dont want to gIve up on us. Im trying to convince him we need help. Now he's telling me that he's learned to isolate himself and learn to be alone. All i want is my family back together at this point and stop the back and forth. He has a tough outer shell now and I Dont think I break it, Im hoping I can. He's willing to go to counseling but as individuals and then see a marriage counseled. I just want advice and help from others that have been through this.. Anything will help. I love him with all my heart and I hope we can make it through.. Thank you
Deroy Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 (edited) ]:confused:Hi im about too go through a seperation from my wife .We have decided its best for now too not be together .So many things from our past has come back into our marriage life from rejection<sexual and emotional abuse,and abandonment .Understand this it will take the two of you too want this marriage if you have any hope for it too work thats the first thing the second thing is patients .Im learning that love isnt all this emotional stuff that most people think .Love is painful love is sacrifice and love is enduring the tough times it will take too get your marriage where it needs too be .Right now he has put up a wall. Not because he doesnt love you but because he feels the pain of rejection .I know because thats what I have done in the past .I think the fact that he is willing too go too individual councelling is a really good start .It will take some time hopefully not too long but time does heal wounds if the right medicine is applied .I dont know if your a person of faith but I know that for me if I did nt have that with me I would have nobody too lean on during this time of heartache.Please be patieint and let the time apart allow you too grow as an individual .We all need to be whole peole before we can really give our selves too another person .Hope this helps ans I speak too myself in my own process. Edited August 6, 2011 by Deroy
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