aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 You know what i hate about breaking up, is the fact it takes a girl less than 24 hours for find another guy,and it takes us guys days/weeks/or even months to find another girl...life is just very unfair...
tom_gbr Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 yeah tell me about it mate....all ym ex would have to do is walk into a bar or club and smile at a guy and he would be all over her....she broke up with me cause she didnt need a boyfriend in her life.....month and a half later shes chatting to this guy she met in bar every night on the phone....i know where its going...who meets someone in a bar just to be friends?
Author aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Author Posted April 28, 2004 Yeah man....i've been broken up with my ex for about a month now...there are still times when i want to call her up and talk...but i dont want to know what shes doing or who she's seeing....it would just hurt me tremendously..the best thing to do is try and move on, go after other chicks, and accept the fact that, for whatever reason, a female can love you one minute and then want you completely out of her life the next...its crazy, but since they have sooo many options they just move from guy to guy and we have to just accept that i guess and view them all the same until that right one just comes along...
Pyrannaste Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 Originally posted by aeguy2503 You know what i hate about breaking up, is the fact it takes a girl less than 24 hours for find another guy,and it takes us guys days/weeks/or even months to find another girl...life is just very unfair... Female friend of mine used to say the same thing about guys....it takes them less than a day to find another girl and can forget about their former gf as quick as this <snap fingers>.... life is unfair to females ..... it is not a question of guys/girls, it is a question of persons: those who are for a quick partner replacement and those who will take time to lick their wounds.
emeraldcity Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 No offense, but this is total crap. Girls too have trouble meeting new people. The type of relationships you are referring to where you meet the other person in a crowded, stuffy pub or nightclub, are usually the one night stand type, where the guy you smile at, is 'instantly' all over you because they think they are going to get lucky. I am not what you would call "unnattractive", and yet I have been single now for 9 months, and before my previous relationship - I had never ever been in a relationship (i am 22 btw). Alot of me find me attractive, I am intelligent and kind (so it is not a major personality default) - but I am shy which makes introductions difficult. Anyway - I just wanted to point out that it can be difficult for girls too.
Author aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Author Posted April 28, 2004 Well, its not crap when referring to the one night stand like you said....most girls, even unattractive girls, can simply walk into a club/bar, let a guy buy them drinks and compliment them up the wazzooo, and have a convenient, relationship forgetting one night stand...true love is hard to find i agree...but i think it sucks how girls can so easily get guys in the sack... i have to think about this every day since we've broken up...i think, hmm, i wonder how many guys shes been with since me....it just kills me to think about..
tattoomytoe Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 Originally posted by aeguy2503 Well, its not crap when referring to the one night stand like you said....most girls, even unattractive girls, can simply walk into a club/bar, let a guy buy them drinks and compliment them up the wazzooo, and have a convenient, relationship forgetting one night stand...true love is hard to find i agree...but i think it sucks how girls can so easily get guys in the sack... i have to think about this every day since we've broken up...i think, hmm, i wonder how many guys shes been with since me....it just kills me to think about.. does not say much for the girl or the guy! and thank the lord you got rid of this apparent husey when you did...i mean if guys are just things to do To her, with no care about others feelings...then she doesn't seem like the type for you. it sucks that we do not see this all the time in the beginning, or maybe you were to be the one to change how she "operated"......let her go. there are better more deserving girls out there waiting on you.
tattoomytoe Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 Originally posted by aeguy2503 Well, its not crap when referring to the one night stand like you said....most girls, even unattractive girls, can simply walk into a club/bar, let a guy buy them drinks and compliment them up the wazzooo, and have a convenient, relationship forgetting one night stand...true love is hard to find i agree...but i think it sucks how girls can so easily get guys in the sack... i have to think about this every day since we've broken up...i think, hmm, i wonder how many guys shes been with since me....it just kills me to think about.. does not say much for the girl or the guy! and thank the lord you got rid of this apparent husey when you did...i mean if guys are just things to do To her, with no care about others feelings...then she doesn't seem like the type for you. it sucks that we do not see this all the time in the beginning, or maybe you were to be the one to change how she "operated"......let her go. there are better more deserving girls out there waiting on you.
tom_gbr Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 this may sound stupid but i would prefer it if my ex was just pulling guys in clubs and it didnt mean anything...as i said my girlfriend finished with me because she didnt need a boyfriend right now....month and a half later i find out she's basically seeing someone....what the f*ck did she lie to me?
Author aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Author Posted April 28, 2004 I dont KNOW that she is getting with guys, but i'm assuming she is because it would be so easy for her...hell, i dont know what to say about your problem bro....just do like me and break off all contact...try and find someone else..
BlockHead Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 This is like a chicken coop. We have the chickens and we have the roosters. The chickens want to be around the strongest roosters, and those roosters selectively kick out the less desirable chickens. Those chickens flock to the flunkies until they get another shot at the bigger ones. Some roosters see a lot of action, and others don’t. The chickens just circulate.
pixiegrrl28 Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 I think it also depends on who broke up with who here! If you broke up with her/him I don't think you can get mad at her/him for finding someone new already! On the other hand if they broke up with you their actions are very hurtful.
Author aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Author Posted April 28, 2004 she kinda broke up with me on the basis that we lived too far apart...and now she wants nothing to do with me so i have to move on...but it just sucks thinking how easily she can find someone else
pixiegrrl28 Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 I know how that feels! My boyfriend of three years just told me last night that he wants to start seeing other people. I hurts to know that his feelings for me have changed. I know that I need to move on but, that is easier said than done. That is why I am glad that I can come on here and see that there are people who are going through the same things I am. Because, sometimes you feel like you are all alone in this.
Author aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Author Posted April 28, 2004 exactly...i feel like, what the heck, she said she loved me and now she wants to move on? I guess the distance made it too hard...but i have all these thoughts that i cant control, like is she seeing someone else already? or how many guys has she gone on dates with or hooked up with? i know its all stupid and irrelevant, but i still think about it...
pixiegrrl28 Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 It makes me sick to think about him with another girl. I have horrible thoughts also. How long were you and your girl together? The thing I keep thinking about is that some day they will realize what a good thing they have thrown away, and they will want a second chance but, it will be too late for them!!
pixiegrrl28 Posted April 28, 2004 Posted April 28, 2004 It makes me sick to think about him with another girl. I have horrible thoughts also. How long were you and your girl together? The thing I keep thinking about is that some day they will realize what a good thing they have thrown away, and they will want a second chance but, it will be too late for them!!
Author aeguy2503 Posted April 28, 2004 Author Posted April 28, 2004 we were only together for 7 months...its really not as bad as my first couple of relationships, but breaking up always sucks not matter how experienced you've become to breaking up
faux Posted April 29, 2004 Posted April 29, 2004 Originally posted by aeguy2503 You know what i hate about breaking up, is the fact it takes a girl less than 24 hours for find another guy,and it takes us guys days/weeks/or even months to find another girl...life is just very unfair... I think that this can go the same way for men or women. I think it is a people thing. I can relate to this with women. The women that I have been involved with who were wrong for me were always able to ditch me and find someone else that day, a few days later, or a week or month later. The girls who could just leave me and move on so quickly were never good people to begin with. I would guess this can be the same for men doing this to women. Heck, I've had some men do the same thing to me! So I have to say this is a people thing. In my experience it is the more decent people who linger with their feelings. If someone moves on that quickly after you, perhaps they were just not right for you, or maybe they were even not so wonderful people to begin with.
JustHot Posted April 30, 2004 Posted April 30, 2004 After coming out of a heavy relationship, it's hard to find a good guy I click with. I am vulnerable to who is attentive, but if I pursue it right away, it leaves me feeling emptier and missing my ex more than ever. I think both men and women have power to draw the opposite sex when they're rebounding, or at any other time. It has a lot to do with personality, confidence, and wanting that validation. But after the initial excitement, what's left? I felt that if I truly valued myself, I would take it slow with anyone new, so as not to use them as my emotional caddy, and to be true to myself. I can't stand living a lie with someone I don't love. I only end up not giving them the respect they deserve and trying to change them to meet my standards. I waited 6 months to date again, then it took another year to be open to true love. So it doesn't matter whether you can attract someone quickly or not. You still suffer in those quiet moments in the dark. From a girl who has no shortage of admirers.
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