Depressed that I broke no contact after 10 days but I had to

[wreckedhero]

I've told her to leave me alone as she keeps texting me. I've told her how it is, how it was disgusting she thinks I'm just on a piece of string for her own needs, how after I had asked her for a meal she replied with a text about her ex, how it's a joke she doesnt have to impress me anymore. I've told her to leave me alone and only ever get into contact with me iif she's serious about getting into a relationship with me. I had to do it. Those texts of hers were driving me insane. e.g asking me about cd's, asking me if I was mardy with her. I know deep down she doesnt want me so I had to break no contact to tell her to leave me alone. If she goes back with her ex it doesnt matter about my outburst, she was going to anyway. Ive done everything in my power to win her back but I'm done now. Let's hope she leaves me alone because if I ever receive a call from her or one text I will change my number. I know people on here will be disappointed with me for breaking no contact but I had to stand up for myself and tell her that what she was doing was not acceptable and that I'm not someone who will just sit back and be under the thumb. I've had no reply so she obviously doesnt or can't justify her actions and she's got the message now. My question to you is do you think this "woman" will have the gall and the audacity to ever get into contact with me again? I sincerely hope not

[geegirl]

Telling her to leave you alone would be ignoring her completely no matter. Silence speaks louder than words.

 

If she has the gall and audacity to contact you again, you better have the strength and resolve to ignore. Otherwise, we'll keep seeing the same thing over and over again on LS.

 

She didn't hold a gun to your head. She just texted you incessantly with stupidity. She knows it is unacceptable. She does not care. You chose to answer. Your fault. If you choose to keep trying to make a point that she cannot comprehend, then I can't blame her for playing games with you because she sees she can break you. You are the only one choosing to play this game that, as time has shown you over and over again, you will always end up losing.

Edited August 4, 2011 by geegirl

[wreckedhero]

Well I've been forthright and to the point. If she texts again I change my number so I think that shows I'm willing and able to discard her. I just think if you keep getting texts of someone you can't move on because you are always expecting that text again. At least this way I can move on with the knowledge that I won't be contacting her again and if she does contact me then I change my number. All this silence speaks louder than words stuff is ok if it doesnt affect you but in time she will realise that I stood up for myself and took her out of my life. I promise I will never be in contact with her again. I've finally moved on with my life and I thank everyone here for their advice but in this instance I think breaking no contact for the final time was the right thing to do. Yes she knows that she's bothered me but at least I'll be happy once again knowing that if she makes that mistake of contacting me I will change my number.

[geegirl]

Well I've been forthright and to the point. If she texts again I change my number so I think that shows I'm willing and able to discard her. I just think if you keep getting texts of someone you can't move on because you are always expecting that text again. At least this way I can move on with the knowledge that I won't be contacting her again and if she does contact me then I change my number. All this silence speaks louder than words stuff is ok if it doesnt affect you but in time she will realise that I stood up for myself and took her out of my life. I promise I will never be in contact with her again. I've finally moved on with my life and I thank everyone here for their advice but in this instance I think breaking no contact for the final time was the right thing to do. Yes she knows that she's bothered me but at least I'll be happy once again knowing that if she makes that mistake of contacting me I will change my number.

 

I hope that when she contacts you in time, you will change your number. I just hope when she does, when your feelings of anger have subsided, you won't be asking again what her contact means and that you will have had enough.

[wreckedhero]

I will thankyou. I just had to send that text for my own peace of mind and sanity. I'm sure I've done the right thing. I'm sure no one here thinks that but I've never ever been as forthright or assertive with her before as I was today and I now know that in order to move on I can't even have a text of her or her breadcrumbs as I'm not strong enough to resist them. At least this way I won't get the breadcrumbs

[geegirl]

I will thankyou. I just had to send that text for my own peace of mind and sanity. I'm sure I've done the right thing. I'm sure no one here thinks that but I've never ever been as forthright or assertive with her before as I was today and I now know that in order to move on I can't even have a text of her or her breadcrumbs as I'm not strong enough to resist them. At least this way I won't get the breadcrumbs

 

Well, you're taking a step in the right direction, Wrecked. And I commend you for finally being able to stand up to her.

 

But also know, that she may come back and bother you. You can't control her, so you'll have to be strong to control you.