bluenightowl Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 As a woman, if you had early sex - date 1 or 2 with a guy. Have you ever gotten freaked out later about it.. thinking OMG - I moved too soon, I was on the rebound, and regret it... to only backtrack.. giving the guy some lame excuse why you cannot continue?
FitChick Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I know someone who got married on their first date. Everyone is different.
Cypress25 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I've never done that, but I know plenty of women who have. Trust me when I say they're not giving you some lame excuse. They really mean it. A lot of women are afraid that guys will use them for sex, so if they get carried away in the heat of the moment and have sex after only a few dates, they might start to worry that the guy is only interested in sex. So they try to rewind. People make mistakes. It may be confusing when this happens, but it's really the woman's way of saying "I didn't mean to do that. Can we start over?" It's a genuine attempt to establish an emotional connection with you before having sex with you again. She wants to know that you're not just looking to get laid, that you're interested in her as a person too. If you like the girl, try to be understanding and patient. Date her for awhile, demonstrate your interest in her personality, get to know her better, and after a few weeks/months, she'll probably be happy to start having sex with you again. However, if you're not interested in the girl and you just want to get laid, then I suggest being honest with her so neither of you waste any more time.
misssmartypants Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I've never done that. I mean, I've had sex early in a relationship, but I've never then put a stop to all sex just because I regretted doing it that time. I've maybe had a "girl issue" that I didn't want to go into details about or I've lost the attraction I had felt, but I've never decided to undo the deed. But then, I like sex, I think everyone should have as much as possible, and I don't attach my sense of self worth to weather or not I had sex.
Author bluenightowl Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 I've never done that, but I know plenty of women who have. Trust me when I say they're not giving you some lame excuse. They really mean it. A lot of women are afraid that guys will use them for sex, so if they get carried away in the heat of the moment and have sex after only a few dates, they might start to worry that the guy is only interested in sex. So they try to rewind. People make mistakes. It may be confusing when this happens, but it's really the woman's way of saying "I didn't mean to do that. Can we start over?" It's a genuine attempt to establish an emotional connection with you before having sex with you again. She wants to know that you're not just looking to get laid, that you're interested in her as a person too. If you like the girl, try to be understanding and patient. Date her for awhile, demonstrate your interest in her personality, get to know her better, and after a few weeks/months, she'll probably be happy to start having sex with you again. However, if you're not interested in the girl and you just want to get laid, then I suggest being honest with her so neither of you waste any more time. What if she were also dating other guys? Does the dynamic change at that point to what you said above?
Cypress25 Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I'm guessing you're not in an exclusive relationship, so what she does with other guys is none of your business. If you don't want her to date other guys, then ask her to be exclusive. Otherwise, you're both free to date other people and you're not obligated to tell each other about it. So the answer is no, it shouldn't change the dynamic because this is between you and her.
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