Sportychick10 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 So I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19, we have been together for almost 9 months now. When we first started dating they loved him and he loved them but ever since valentines day this year is car was acting up and we couldn't hang out so my parents automatically assumed he was cheating on me. He got mad and said things out of frustration and my parents hated him. At the end of may my parents and him sat down and fixed the problem up, but now they hate him again because they believe he has changed me into a hateful person. No one else sees it except them, but anyway he's in college and graduates in January and he's changing his field of study and my mom says he's dropping out. And she said that I have to break up with him because I need to focus on college in the fall. She is constantly calling him a loser and a low life because he don't have a job but he is looking and he has had interviews but he don't reach their needs. But I love him and they told me if I break up with him they will be so happy. What did i do? I'm not gonna break up with him because they want me to do so. I love him With all my heart and he loves me too. If you guys can help that would be great
Author Sportychick10 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 I love my parents and all but they won't let me live my life. He does everything to show them he's not a loser but he can't ever please them.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I love my parents and all but they won't let me live my life. He does everything to show them he's not a loser but he can't ever please them. You cant cant control them or make them do what you want regardless. Ignore what they say about him until you move out. Theyre going to tell you what they think as long as you let them. Since youre a people pleaser, you'll never stand up to them, so all you can do is take it until you move out.
dasein Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 This kind of thing happens lots. Consider focusing on college instead of relationships until you get and keep your grades up, then if this guy is still the one, he will be around, and your parents will have a harder time lording over you once you are showing signs of responsibility and adulthood.
Author Sportychick10 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 The thing is I don't wanna break up with him for school. I mean yeah I won't be with him allthe time because of school but I can still do both
sagetalk Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Your story sounds grossly one sided, I'm sure there is more to it then that. Unless you have lousy parents, their advice has great value. They have a right to chime in on who you date. Afterall, if you screw up with relationships, they will end up suffering as well.
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