DearDelilah666 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for four years now. Well, before me he dated his first for a year and a half. When we started dating she always tried talking to him, saying she missed them as friends, and tried to hug him all the time. I was fine with them being friends but he said he wanted nothing to do with her since she cheated on him and treated him badly. Well, I ignored it and 2 years into our relationship we hit a rough patch start arguing and on our anniversary he dropped me off at school kissed me goodbye.... and then went and saw his ex behind my back in the parking lot and got her number. Of course I was a wreck when I heard and he said we needed a break and that we were still together. Well, we have this 'break' and a week later he doesn't think we should be together. A month later we're back together and everything is fine and he said he said he didn't see anyone else. Six months later, BAM, lies out the wazoo come to light. On our break he hooked up with her constantly and told me we were on a break just so I would stop crying and didn't mean it. He calls her behind my back and week later and we have another fight and he allegedly called her and said he wanted nothing to do with her. After that it's been hard to trust him but I believed it was a dead issue until this Tuesday when he rand into her at a gas station and started talking to her. I told him to never talk to her again because of all the problems in the past right. She proceeds to ask them if they will talk again and he says yes. WTF. I only found out about this from a friend of HERS whom thought it was messed up. He said he only said it to be nice and he had no intention of speaking to her or not. Advice?
Author DearDelilah666 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 This friend who told me about the incident is good friends with her and told me she talks about him all the time. Even after we have been together for four years she says she still loves him. I'm at my wits end with all the lying and decieving. I even asked my boyfriend, why do you keep doing this? If you wanted to be with her why no do so when we were on that bs break that you never meant in the first place? He said cuz he didn't want her and he loved me. he says nothing is going on behind my back but...
DutchValhallaViking Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Yikes! That's serious inappropriate behaviour on both their parts. This girl is obviously a mean witch who cheated on him and now is trying or has succeeded in making your BF cheat on you, if not physically then atleast mentally. I am suprised you havent broken up with him yet. From the sound of it he keeps lying to you and wants to be with his ex-Gf insted. I suggest you give him that chance to be happy with her...until the slut spreads her legs for another guy and he gets left with nothing. If he wanted to be 'nice' he would have said he was happily involved with you and didnt want to disturb that. My advice is to find someone whose trustworthy and treats you right.
Untouchable_Fire Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 This friend who told me about the incident is good friends with her and told me she talks about him all the time. Even after we have been together for four years she says she still loves him. I'm at my wits end with all the lying and decieving. I even asked my boyfriend, why do you keep doing this? If you wanted to be with her why no do so when we were on that bs break that you never meant in the first place? He said cuz he didn't want her and he loved me. he says nothing is going on behind my back but... So, your taking advice from his xGF's BFF? That sounds like a conflict of interest. Without actual proof beyond hearsay... I'm inclined to believe your BF is telling the truth. Unless I read your story wrong. Look if he runs into her at the store that's fine. If he is calling her every day... that isn't Ok. Just set down your boundaries and ask him to stick to it. If he doesn't you know he isn't the guy for you.
Author DearDelilah666 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 Well I also believed so but I believe him to be a trustworthy person because he can't stand her and she in fact cheated on him. I would think it was a conflict too. But when I asked my boyfriend about it he confirmed that he did indeed talk to her first and when she asked if they would talk again he said yes. It's a peculiar friendship with one who is friends with your enemy so to speak and he has given me particular tidbits to help out that i've kept in mind to use against her.
iJester Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 End the drama. Dump your boyfriend. If he said that you were still together during this 'break', then he did cheat on you. Cut him off and move on, or this well never end. Also, this 'friend' that keeps tabs on your bf's ex, just wants to get in your pants.
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