loverlover Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 This has puzzled me for some time and I would be so happy if someone could shed some light on this. I was on a dating site and got chatting to a man we sent emails then phoned and agreed to meet it was suppose to be a date but when I saw him the attraction was mutual and we ended up sleeping together. I would say the time duration of first having contact from the dating site to sleeping together was about 4 weeks. We live about 65miles apart, in different counties. During the emails and phone calls we talked alot, we had an instant connection and somehow got chatting about having a long term relalationship, without having even met. Anyway after the initial meet he wanted to see me again a few days later but I dont know why but I began to feel down I think it was PMT and I told him not to bother so he didnt pretty soon after that he began feeling upset about his finances and how he had to pay so much to his ex for the kids and other stuff happened. Long story short he phoned me about another 4 weeks later to end things saying there was someone else. I was so heartbroken because from the first meet we had spoken to one another every day, we got on so well. I could understand if he did not fancy me much but it seemed the attraction was mutual. I cried my heart out and then began to face the fact that it was over or never even got started. A few days after that phone call he phone me again and basically and has not stopped phoning since, much of the conversation is about how much he has feelings for me and that decision he took he did not take it lightly. For the first year I always thought we would get back together, then this year I have faced the facts and for the past 4 months have not contacted him. But he still phones now more than ever almost daily. I just dont get it, he doesnt want to be with me but yet will not let me go? We have never slept together since that day, he has visited me see me twice since that first meet and we chatted but never had sex. We have slept together only once, and seen each other altogether only 3 times. Why cant i forget him and why doesnt he just move on since he was the one that ended it? He is on my mind all the time and I truely wish I could forget him.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Why cant i forget him and why doesnt he just move on since he was the one that ended it? He is on my mind all the time and I truely wish I could forget him. The question is, why dont YOU move on? You cant forget him if you keep answering the phone. Tell him he has to either start the relationship again, or he has to stop calling you entirely. If gives you no answer, or says he wont stop, you block his phone or change his number. He might be keeping you as a backup in case the woman he is with now doesnt work out.
Author loverlover Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 The question is, why dont YOU move on? You cant forget him if you keep answering the phone. Tell him he has to either start the relationship again, or he has to stop calling you entirely. If gives you no answer, or says he wont stop, you block his phone or change his number. He might be keeping you as a backup in case the woman he is with now doesnt work out. I have done the no contact thing twice the first time I changed my number and did not speak to him for 3 months and then got back in touch. Then the other time had no contact for about the same amount of time and he contacted me. Now that I have discovered this site I think it will give me the strength to break off completely by not answering his calls. Thanks for the advice Eddie, the message your saying is be stronger.
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