diamondette Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 last night me and my long term bf were having a heart to heart, we been going out a while and i share alot with him, we know each other inside out. ive had a pretty bad past (i was attacked when i was 13 by three men) he has never asked what happened and i have never told him actual details but he got the jist. Anyway we were talking on the phone about something to do with it an other stuff and i said to him that i wana tell him something but i feel i cant actually say it so when we get off the phone i will text him it, so i did. He replied to assure me he got the message but he never said anything else about it. we have spoken again this morning about other things but not that. i feel a little sad that i told him something i have never told anyone and i am embarressed to say to anyone and his reaction wasnt what i thought. why would he not say anything about it?
oldguy Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 He may be digesting it. or waiting for you to reopen the topic knowing how sensitive it is too you. He maybe unsure of what to say right now. Also; guys tend to want to 'fix' things & when something comes up that can not be fixed it creates confusion. Talk to him, one one, face to face.
kiss_andmakeup Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 That seems like something you should have talked about in person. Texting is an awkward way to discuss something to serious. He probably just didn't know how to respond. Talk to him about it in person the next time you're with him. Why did he need to know the "details?" Hopefully him knowing the "jist" of what happened was enough to make him have some compassion and understanding for you and what you've been through.
Author diamondette Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 BTW what i told him wasnt the details, more about reprocussions (doubt thats spelt correct) but how it effects me physically and emotionally.
smudge21 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 He may think that you only wanted to share the info but not discuss it, so he's waiting for you bring it up again, or at least ask him about it. I know from my past hearing that a loved one has been hurt can really be upsetting. As the partner we feel helpless; we can't fix the situation but we feel we should. We also find it hard to know what to say. Don't presume anything until you've spoken to him, he may just have a hard time dealing with what he now knows.
Author diamondette Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 Thanks everyone and yeah I think ur right that he thought I wanted to tell him but not discuss it. I didnt mind either way was just surprised he literally said zero. Rp7 I wasn't saying he was right or wrong but I no what u mean us women I'll admit r hard work guys can never win but we feel same about u lot too. Lol My bf is high up in army so is very protecting and I guess knowing he can't do anything is not the norm to him
D-Lish Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I'm surprised he didn't at least acknowledge it. It is a lot of information to take in- maybe when you next see one another in person you can bring it up again.
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