Thug Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Well my long distance boyfriend of 5 months has comer to visit me again (second trip ). The ocassion is my birthday. He is 40 and I just turned 35 on Tuesday. The issue am having is he did not bring any cash (says he hasn't gotten paid as yet ). So I have to be the one providing for him. We went out with family and friends to celebrate my birthday and I felt very embarassed as I had to be the one paying for our food on my birthday. I don't know if I am reading too much into this but when he came to visit me on his first trip he did have money and was able to take care of himself. The only turn off was one day when he told me he wanted me to buy a shirt for him. I have been to visit him once and he treated me very well. (we live in different countries) I am just confused because I feel at his age he should be more financially stable. He is police. Looking forward to receiving some much needed attention.
Author Thug Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 I meant looking forward to receiving some much needed advice from you guys.
Zaphod B Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 (edited) The audacity! Seems like he expects a lot from you. I'm amazed he can look himself in the mirror, expecting you to pay his way. Seems like a user to me. I guess you feel uncomfortable about broaching the subject with him, but I think you need to. His reaction will tell you a lot about what sort of person he is. BTW, what country? There are men who target women to try and get money out of them. I've heard of such scams before. I think Africa is know to be pretty bad. Edited August 4, 2011 by Zaphod B
Author Thug Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 We are both from two different islands in the Caribbean. I really want to speak to him about it but I am afraid I might be too harsh.
creighton0123 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I meant looking forward to receiving some much needed advice from you guys. The last time you asked for advice was at the very beginning of the relationship, where many of us suggested that there's something off about this guy. We might all very well say the same thing now. I know that I am. I hope you take our advice into consideration. Not having money, even at 40, because said money was spent paying for the trip itself, is understandable. When I went to visit my boyfriend in Japan earlier this year, I didn't have money enough to be comfortable spending that much. Since his travel was more inexpensive, he purchased most of the food and entertainment. I did not, however, ask him to buy me anything, especially something so silly as a shirt. Something is not right with this guy. You should really evaluate whether or not you truly want a long distance relationship with this man, especially when it comes to requiring one (or both) of you to abandon your citizenship or secure a second citizenship in order to be together.
Zaphod B Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I guess Creighton does make a good point about the fact that he had to pay for his travel over, although it seems it should have been agreed, before he came, that you would cover his costs while with you. I still wonder just how much it would cost for him to travel though, when it's within the Carribean. Shouldn't imagine it would be a lot and if he's a cop he should be getting a reasonable income. Agree with the comment about the shirt though. That's crazy.
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