lordrushx1 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 (edited) First off...Thanks for any Ladies who can throw out there womanly advice Secondly, I realize that at this moment, I am still in Love with a woman of 9 years. Right now, my head and heart are on opposite sides of the planet...I could EASILY be misinterpreting the entire thing, however...I have a gift for seeing the language one speaks in these situations...so here goes Without the novel of what happened, here is a quick rundown. As mentioned, 9 years together. It would appear over,although, there is alot of unfinished business and lingering things. She has her own new place, I just moved into mine 2 days ago. We still have a condo with 99.9% of my stuff removed and about 15-20% remaining for her. I still Love her, and I believe she still has deep feelings for me..although, she is seeing someone new [total rebound] This passed Sunday was my last night at the condo. I made one last attempt at trying to get her to reason and wrote a letter at length. I placed the letter the very next day on her computer table and placed a glass frame with our picture in it. I took some lipstick of hers and wrote on one side : I Will Always on the opposite side : Love You Yesterday...still having the keys, I knew she wouldn't be their and went by to grab small wares. On her computer table, I noticed that she indeed read the letter because it was folded into. The picture frame of us was gone which I found in the bedroom. Now, today..I went to complete my move which again, was extremely small. I went into the bedroom and there was the picture frame that I wrote on. Only this time, I noticed the smudge. She totally took her thumb and smeared WILL ALWAYS across, but kept the I LOVE YOU Now look...this could be nothing at all, as I said, I could totally be reading into nothing. However...I am keen to these kind of "clues", its not often that I am incorrect in presumption. To me...that means something What? I am unsure...that is why I am asking you ladies. Men don't understand the female psyche anymore than a woman understanding us. So...Whatya think..Am I off my rocker or could this be a sign of significance or a sign of negative reaction O and just for the record...Today, the letter was gone. It had significance to me because in the letter I left a key to my new condo. Yesterday..she read it,but today..she took it with her -side note Edited August 4, 2011 by lordrushx1
flitzanu Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 we'll let the ladies chime in, but seriously...it's pretty simple. if she IS NOT saying "i want to get back together" then NOTHING she does has any significance, and nothing should be read into at all. we make these things so complicated when they aren't.
Author lordrushx1 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 Almost everything you say is correct, however .. I truly believe there IS a meaning behind her actions on the picture frame. I believe there was an emotional response to her actions. So, I guess I am more wishing to know what she was thinking at the time she did it
Layzie89 Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I think she was wondering what you wrote it with so she touched it and since it's lipstick it smeared. To be honest. You're making it out to be alot more than what it acually is.
stillafool Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I think she smudged the note accidentally. The fact that she has a new bf tells me she has moved on and so should you.
triphopper414 Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Smear or no smear she probably does love you. I don't think it is possible for two people who have been together for 9 years to not love each other. I think you have to realize or acknowledge again that there is a difference between I LOVE YOU and I AM IN LOVE WITH YOU (which is what I think you were implying by writing that message). You can love someone and not be in love with them. I think she is probably confused herself because she did read your letter and therefore was interested in what you had to say. Maybe she too was looking for a way to keep you two together, but it did not come to her. Things happen, but some things are the right things to do even though they hurt like hell.
flitzanu Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Almost everything you say is correct, however .. I truly believe there IS a meaning behind her actions on the picture frame. I believe there was an emotional response to her actions. So, I guess I am more wishing to know what she was thinking at the time she did it and my ex kept my pics up on facebook. doesn't mean anything. she was still banging some other dude. if she's not telling you she wants to get back together, seriously, you're only MAKING YOURSELF CRAZY by trying to read into anything.
Wesker Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 First off...Thanks for any Ladies who can throw out there womanly advice Secondly, I realize that at this moment, I am still in Love with a woman of 9 years. Right now, my head and heart are on opposite sides of the planet...I could EASILY be misinterpreting the entire thing, however...I have a gift for seeing the language one speaks in these situations...so here goes Without the novel of what happened, here is a quick rundown. As mentioned, 9 years together. It would appear over,although, there is alot of unfinished business and lingering things. She has her own new place, I just moved into mine 2 days ago. We still have a condo with 99.9% of my stuff removed and about 15-20% remaining for her. I still Love her, and I believe she still has deep feelings for me..although, she is seeing someone new [total rebound] This passed Sunday was my last night at the condo. I made one last attempt at trying to get her to reason and wrote a letter at length. I placed the letter the very next day on her computer table and placed a glass frame with our picture in it. I took some lipstick of hers and wrote on one side : I Will Always on the opposite side : Love You Yesterday...still having the keys, I knew she wouldn't be their and went by to grab small wares. On her computer table, I noticed that she indeed read the letter because it was folded into. The picture frame of us was gone which I found in the bedroom. Now, today..I went to complete my move which again, was extremely small. I went into the bedroom and there was the picture frame that I wrote on. Only this time, I noticed the smudge. She totally took her thumb and smeared WILL ALWAYS across, but kept the I LOVE YOU Now look...this could be nothing at all, as I said, I could totally be reading into nothing. However...I am keen to these kind of "clues", its not often that I am incorrect in presumption. To me...that means something What? I am unsure...that is why I am asking you ladies. Men don't understand the female psyche anymore than a woman understanding us. So...Whatya think..Am I off my rocker or could this be a sign of significance or a sign of negative reaction O and just for the record...Today, the letter was gone. It had significance to me because in the letter I left a key to my new condo. Yesterday..she read it,but today..she took it with her -side note 9 Years. That's a little over 1 year more than me. Nice. Having one of these really long term relationships end makes you wonder why we even got in them in the first place. From my recent experience, once they leave, they are gone for good, unless the new guy completely treats her like crap. Read some of my threads, and I did similar things. My letter was more goodbye than getting back together. Either way, no response. No calls. No nothing. If you were really good to her, she'll always have fond memories, but nothing more. It really sucks too knowing you have to start over from scratch with someone else.
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