SpiralOut Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 (edited) Never mind, I decided to delete what I originally posted in here. All I'll say is that I finally threw out his hockey sticks today. Then I deleted him from facebook. What I want more than anything is for him to realize what a complete and total ******* he was to me. But that will never happen. Even if he admits to it he'll just be doing it to placate me, not because he actually means it. He never could give me anything I wanted. Nothing at all. And now for a sleepless night as my anger consumes me... Edited August 4, 2011 by SpiralOut
wilsonx Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Sorry to hear about you dealing with this breakup but I would love to offer you some advice that one of my best friends has given me this past week. He told me that I NEED to stop dwelling on it and let it go. Thats it, stop thinking about your ex. You know what, when I don't think about her, I do not get angry or hurt or cry. He's right. I reminded him that something like this doesnt just happen its hard. He responded name an accomplishment that you got in life that you are proud of. I told him graduating college. He said was that easy? I said absolutely not. He reminded me that the best things in life require effort to achieve. In order for you to get over your ex and stop being angry, you have to try to focus on your life and stop thinking about him. You know what he is, you know how he acts, you got the short end of the stick like I did. Just let him go and focus on you. This isn't an overnight fix but the more and more you work on it and remove him from your life and focus on yourself, the sooner indifference will come and you will probably find someone way better
squirtle Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 hey hun, i know it sounds so cliche when people say "focus on yourself" forget about him yadadada but its really the only way. im currently attending court dates for my ex that beat the crap out of me (cops pressed charges) and sometimes i get soooo effing mad! when i think of what he did or how hes so publicly nice to his new woman to make me mad. but you really really need to channel your energy into yourself. for me, its been preparing myself to get my liscence (im a late bloomer at 23 lol) its something he used to always make fun of me for so now its a really great satisfaction to be like HA LOOK WHAT IM DOING but its also positive. you need to fine your thing and focus on it. totally lose contact with him. its almost like theyre dead to you, and it feels horrible, but u get over it.. rather than dragging it on.
Author SpiralOut Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Hello, sorry for taking so long to respond. I hardly think of him anymore now. I am still not over it, however, because I am starting to reflect on what I need to fix about myself to ensure that I never allow a situation like that to happen again. I am reviewing what my part was. In about 6 more weeks I'll be moving into my own place. I've already removed about 95% of the stuff that was his/ours from my current place. This to me is a huge step forward. I am not sure how I'm going to feel when it actually happens. Just thinking about it gets me emotional. I've been focusing on my writing because it was something that he claimed to love about me yet for the majority of our relationship he showed a low level of actual interest in reading my pieces, showing very little support for the work I was doing. If I can accomplish something really great like a paid freelance job or write a book, it will be like shoving in his face that he was an idiot for not believing in me more. It would also help me out a lot financially and career-wise too, so it's more for me than for him. Thanks again for the responses. You are both right. Channeling energy elsewhere really helps.
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