a121 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 (edited) (my friend's relationship) For 2.2 years I have been going out with a girl who I am compatible. She has great personality and thinks kinda like me however there arere a few problems. Im not too attracted to her (only a semi or at times), and she has too many problems and insecurites. I dealt with her problems and stayed because I had never met a girl who had goals, morals, and enjoy time with. I tried to picture her as my friend but couldn't. After getting to know her, I know she is the girl for me, the one that I will end up with but sometimes I get kinda depressed because I am not as satisfied or attracted to her looks as I liked to be. Time to time I find myself looking at other guy's girlfriends and getting jealous or thinking to myelf "what a lucky bastard", wishing my girlfriend looked like them. I don't think she is bad looking and I am semi attracted to her. I know people say looks will fade away and you will eventually be stuck with the real her but I have somewhat an obsession with looks. I care about how I look and workout 5 days a week. I want to look great and have a great looking girlfriend too. She is not overweight or anything like that, she is just different than the girls I find myself physcially attarcted to. I have asked her to dress up more but she talks about her insecurities. What should I do? I don't want to break up with her becasue she isnt fake like other girls out there but at the same time I really want a girl I am 100% physically attracted to. what attracts me most to her is her persoanlity and the things we have in common. I hate when she is moody and gets naggy. She reminds me of my mom and how she complains of something being wrong with her. Please help me, this is an ongoing issue I have and don't know how to deal with it. Edited August 4, 2011 by a121
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I'm sorry that this happened to you. I am in no way a licensed therapist AT ALL!! But depression runs in my family and A LOT of what you said sounds like what happened to me when I started high school. What I can say is sometimes when people are scared they push away the people that matter most. I really wish I could give you a solution but I do wish you and her the best and hope that if she feels like she needs help then she gets it.
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