a121 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I am very picky in the kinds of girls I like. Usually I am attracted to the ones that dress a certain way and at times that does't turn out as good because I learn they are either different than how I perceive them to be or are "experienced" For me it is hard getting over the fact that the girl has been sexually active with another guy. I dont like thinking that another guy's groin was in her mouth or vaj. what should i do? (please dont say just dont picture it) it disgusts that I am indirectly contacting the previous person's groin even though she washed her mouth. Do I just have to accept this as the norm of today? I also want to be their only guy
thatone Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 the woman you're looking for does not exist. there are no virgins who dress like whores outside of high school, and that won't get you anything but your name on a sex offender registry. get over it.
Author a121 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 how do i get over the problem of thinking the chick has had another groin in her or thinking that i am indirectly kissing another guys dick lol
Cypress25 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Suppose she ate a peanut butter sandwich for lunch 3 months ago and you are allergic to peanut butter. If you kiss her, will you have an allergic reaction because you are "indirectly" contacting the peanut butter that was in her mouth 3 months ago? No, of course not. Because that peanut butter is long gone. You are not contacting anything, directly or indirectly, except her own mouth. I know this is not what you want to hear, but you're gonna have to find a way to get over it. Everyone has a past, if they've lived long enough. Even virgins have probably kissed other guys before. You're not going to be their only guy unless you're meeting these girls when they're 10 years old.
carhill Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 For me it is hard getting over the fact that the girl has been sexually active with another guy. I dont like thinking that another guy's groin was in her mouth or vaj. what should i do?So, OP, are you a virgin? Great way to get over the visuals is do some 'round the world or a rim job after the lady's dropped the kids off at the pool. It's not like you're eating her poop, right? It's just bodies. There's nothing special about them other than as the container for the person we love. It's a long-lived container and gets handled a lot. TBH, in my 52, I've never given it a second thought and I was a virgin for many years. How do you get over it? Grit your teeth, go have some sex, blow a few loads and put it all into perspective. Tear down the pedestal you have women on. They stand next to you as your equal, just as imperfect as you are and I am. The alternative is to marry a virgin as a virgin. That's exceedingly rare in my neck of the woods but anything is possible. Good luck.
Author a121 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 So, OP, are you a virgin? Great way to get over the visuals is do some 'round the world or a rim job after the lady's dropped the kids off at the pool. It's not like you're eating her poop, right? It's just bodies. There's nothing special about them other than as the container for the person we love. It's a long-lived container and gets handled a lot. TBH, in my 52, I've never given it a second thought and I was a virgin for many years. How do you get over it? Grit your teeth, go have some sex, blow a few loads and put it all into perspective. Tear down the pedestal you have women on. They stand next to you as your equal, just as imperfect as you are and I am. The alternative is to marry a virgin as a virgin. That's exceedingly rare in my neck of the woods but anything is possible. Good luck. what do you mean "round the world or rim job"? I just dont want to be with a girl who has had many boyfriends, the idea of having one bf or two is kinda reasonable but still grosses me out btw what do you think about this situation http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t290672/
carhill Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Round the world is licking a girl all over, including all her orifices. Rim job is analingus, or licking her anus. Both are part of sex play for some people. It's gender-neutral but I used 'girl' since we're hetero males. Regarding the 'friend's' situation, people get a sense of whether someone is earnestly attracted to them or not. People can 'fake' it to a certain degree (my exW called it 'masking') but most people can tell that something is 'off'. The same applies if you have anxiety about a girl's past sexual relations. Even if you don't directly address it, it leaks out in your behaviors and actions. It's something you'll have to resolve for yourself. You'll really be in for a treat when someone you see someone you were married to for years kissing and embracing another man. Then you'll know you've graduated into.... hell I don't know but it's a journey anyway. Take your time about getting there. The more women you date and are physically/sexually affectionate with, the more likely this perspective in your OP will fade, IMO.
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