dylan797 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 So long story short, my gf and I broke up a month ago after a 2 year relationship. She basically lost interest. barely talked over the past month, except for random texts grom her about how she missed me and wanted to hang out and catch up. I debated awhile about whether to hang out with her, finally I agreed. Coffee wednesfay at noon. So come 11 am she texts me to say she's hungover and can we meet up the next day. I declined. i thought I was over it all but im a little pissed off. I think I had convinced myself that I was over her, but clearly im not since im bummed she flaked on me. My point is this: to everyone who' struggling with nc....stick to it. Dont see too much in what ur ex says because most of it is bull****. I thought I realized this but I got drawn in again and its my fault (i dont blame her) I just deluded myself. I should have stuck to no contact, no matter what happened. Take everyones advice on this forum!!!!...nc is the way, not to get ur ex back (that rarely happens)....but its the only way to regain control of your life!!
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I totally agree...every single time i break NC cause i fall for whatever my ex says..he proves to me that i should have stayed NC.
antinko Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I get pangs of 'I want to break NC' and my mind convinces me it would be a good idea, but I just have to slap myself (mentally) and say 'NO!' NC is the best choice; it's counter-intuitive, but it really is the best thing.
radiodarcy Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Take everyones advice on this forum!!!!...nc is the way, not to get ur ex back (that rarely happens)....but its the only way to regain control of your life!! it really is. i am embarrassed at the way i completely lost control over myself and chased after someone who didn't want a relationship with me for over two years (it was a friends with benefits situation). all it did was give him the upper hand, allow me to continue to debase myself; kept me in a constant state of anxiety and made me miserable 24/7. and while i would like to say that i was the one who walked, it doesn't matter. all that does matter is that i am working on getting my dignity back and re-building my sense of self. as result i've re-discovered old interests, have developed a greater appreciation for family and friends and no longer have to pop TUMS on account of the endless knots in the pit of my stomach
bonpaw2008 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Very true Dylan, you are so right, nothing but bull**** and lies
Layzie89 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Textbook example of dumper checking if dumpee is still around. Best thing to do is to do nothing at all.
CopingGal Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 When I got back with my ex two years ago, my WHOLE body was screaming at me "DON'T TAKE HIM BACK." There was a tiny voice telling me to take him back. I listened to the tiny voice and got lies from him. I should have never taken him back.
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