GivenUp0083 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 So a girl on saturday night among mutual friends practically FORCED her phone number on me and I took it. She seemed interested and I had been crushing on her for over a year. I called her Monday night and left a voicemail and it's now Wednesday and she has not returned my call yet. I just fell on two free tickets for Lollapalooza on Saturday. I'd like to take a girl. I'd like to take a girl that is interested in me. I would preferably like to take THIS girl if she is interested in me. What do I do? Should I call again? Should I send her a text telling her I have an extra ticket to lolla and I wanted to see if she wanted to join me? Should I say eff her, she didn't call me back and isn't interested so why waste the ticket and sell it to a guy for like $100?
Sanman Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Text her and tell her you have something saturday she might enjoy if she is interested. Do not tell her what it is unless she calls back as she may just use you for the tickets. She doesn't respond to the text then drop her. One call and one text is my limit.
iris219 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 It’s only Wednesday day. She might still return your call. Did your voice message make it clear that she should return your call immediately or was it ambiguous like, “Hey, how’s it going? Just calling to say hi. I thought maybe you’d like to get together sometime.” I hate messages like this. What am I supposed to do with that? It sounds the guy doesn’t really care if or when I return his call. (I’m not saying your message was like that.) This is a hard one because if you text telling her about the ticket she might agree to go whether or not she’s interested in you. If you really want to go with her, text her tomorrow and ask her if she would like to do something on Saturday. If she responds, tell her about the tickets.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 It’s only Wednesday day. She might still return your call. Did your voice message make it clear that she should return your call immediately or was it ambiguous like, “Hey, how’s it going? Just calling to say hi. I thought maybe you’d like to get together sometime.” I hate messages like this. What am I supposed to do with that? It sounds the guy doesn’t really care if or when I return his call. (I’m not saying your message was like that.) This is a hard one because if you text telling her about the ticket she might agree to go whether or not she’s interested in you. If you really want to go with her, text her tomorrow and ask her if she would like to do something on Saturday. If she responds, tell her about the tickets. I basically said "hey, it's _____, just called to see how your weekend went and what you were up to later this week. Give me call back, my number is ____________". I didn't know I had to impress on the voicemail, I assumed that if she was interested it wouldn't have mattered if I ripped @ss into the phone, she's at least call me back to ask what the sound was. Anyway, maybe I'll take sandman's advice and just ask if she is busy saturday. If she responds I'll mention the tix, otherwise yeah, I don't want to dangle the ticket in front of her and convince her to go with me to use me for a concert.
henderson14 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Text her but don't ask her to the concert unless she responds. IF she doesn't respond to a text she isn't interested. I've been in this situation before and they usually respond to texts. I would wait until Thursday to text her again.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Text her but don't ask her to the concert unless she responds. IF she doesn't respond to a text she isn't interested. I've been in this situation before and they usually respond to texts. I would wait until Thursday to text her again. Of the girls you called first (no response), texted second (got a response): How many of them ended up having legitimate interest in you?
grkBoy Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 So a girl on saturday night among mutual friends practically FORCED her phone number on me and I took it. She seemed interested and I had been crushing on her for over a year. I called her Monday night and left a voicemail and it's now Wednesday and she has not returned my call yet. I just fell on two free tickets for Lollapalooza on Saturday. I'd like to take a girl. I'd like to take a girl that is interested in me. I would preferably like to take THIS girl if she is interested in me. What do I do? Should I call again? Should I send her a text telling her I have an extra ticket to lolla and I wanted to see if she wanted to join me? Should I say eff her, she didn't call me back and isn't interested so why waste the ticket and sell it to a guy for like $100? You from Chicago? Hit her up again and make sure you say in the message you have the tix and want to know if she wants to go or not so you don't let them go to waste.
Imajerk17 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Do NOT use the tickets are a bargaining chip to get her to call you (looks needy). I'm not a fan of first dates being big events anyway. Do straight guys even like Lollapalooza anyway? Comes across that you either have effeminate tastes (bad) or you are trying too hard too soon to impress her (also bad). If you don't hear from her by tomorrow night, call her and tease her (in voicemail) about how cute it is that she is "playing hard to get already"...
sm1tten Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 D Do straight guys even like Lollapalooza anyway? Comes across that you either have effeminate tastes (bad) or you are trying too hard too soon to impress her (also bad). Lolla is effeminate? And/or impressive? You learn something new everyday around here.
Imajerk17 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Lolla is effeminate? And/or impressive? You learn something new everyday around here. I think so. Now I'm sure that there are *some* (like maybe 3 or 4) really masculine tough guys who go who love it. But that is still how I see it. I have no idea how hard it is to score tickets or how expensive they are. But still, a concert isn't the best place for a first date.
henderson14 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Of the girls you called first (no response), texted second (got a response): How many of them ended up having legitimate interest in you? Well they won't respond if there not interested. As far as I know they all were but its hard to tell how much. Sometimes girls are shy about calling and talking on the phone so its easier for them to just text. If they have to call you it might be easier for them to blow you off or make excuses.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 Do NOT use the tickets are a bargaining chip to get her to call you (looks needy). I'm not a fan of first dates being big events anyway. Do straight guys even like Lollapalooza anyway? Comes across that you either have effeminate tastes (bad) or you are trying too hard too soon to impress her (also bad). If you don't hear from her by tomorrow night, call her and tease her (in voicemail) about how cute it is that she is "playing hard to get already"... Yeah, do you know how many hot chicks half naked are running around Lollapalooza either drunk or high? You're right, why would any straight male want to go THERE???
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I vote for text. She is not at a super-high interest level, but your goal is to get a date and you can turn it around.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 I vote for text. She is not at a super-high interest level, but your goal is to get a date and you can turn it around. Honestly, I don't believe in this. Unless she has high interest to begin with....I don't want to go out with her. I shouldn't have to prove anything, she's either interested in getting to know me and have fun or she isn't. I'm not going to cater to her and try to win her over.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Honestly, I don't believe in this. Unless she has high interest to begin with....I don't want to go out with her. I shouldn't have to prove anything, she's either interested in getting to know me and have fun or she isn't. I'm not going to cater to her and try to win her over. You don't really have to do anything but be yourself. Women grow feelings from getting to know men, men usually do not. Bunch of my friends got married to guys they were initially lukewarm about.
Emilia Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Maybe she deleted your voicemail by accident. Just send her a text and you will know for sure where you stand.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 You don't really have to do anything but be yourself. Women grow feelings from getting to know men, men usually do not. Bunch of my friends got married to guys they were initially lukewarm about. You make a fair point. I just don't like puting forth a ton of effort because it causes me to become emotionally invested and I get frustrated if I get burned and I blame myself for letting it happen.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 Maybe she deleted your voicemail by accident. Just send her a text and you will know for sure where you stand. Is it okay to send a text during the day while we're both at work? Or wait until tonight?
sm1tten Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I think so. Now I'm sure that there are *some* (like maybe 3 or 4) really masculine tough guys who go who love it. But that is still how I see it. I have no idea how hard it is to score tickets or how expensive they are. But still, a concert isn't the best place for a first date. That hasn't been my experience at all. Especially not amongst Chicagoans. However, I agree it's not the best place for a first date. Loud, expensive.
henderson14 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 You don't really have to do anything but be yourself. Women grow feelings from getting to know men, men usually do not. Bunch of my friends got married to guys they were initially lukewarm about. I agree with this. Thats why people don't get married after the first date. You have to let feelings develop and learn more about each other. I could also be the opposite. The girl might think the guy is perfect when they first meet but then later decide otherwise. I've heard multiple of stories about women who initially didn't want anything to do with guys, but the guys kept trying (in a non creepy and playfully confident way!) and they got married.
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