JasmineLovesCoffee Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I need some advice! I have recently moved to a new state so I want to meet new people and make friends. I have made friends but I would like to meet more people. I met a man a few weeks ago at a bar. We exchanged numbers and since then we meet up all the time and do lots of things together like dinner, movies etc! We have kissed but recently I decided that I just want to be friends. We have not slept together and I give him no impression I will. We have never spoken about us and I am not sure what he wants. When I am with him I treat him like a friend. One thing, he never ever discusses any girls he may be with and I never ask. We just don’t discuss these things. I feel it is a weird situation. Just last week I met a nice man that I want to be friends with. He asked me out for dinner and I agreed. I made sure to pay my share so that it’s not a date. He wants to hang out again and I agreed as he is fun! I feel confused. I’m not sure if I am doing anything wrong here? I am wondering if I should tell either of them. Is this something I need to say? BTW, I am just out of a LTR so I am totally new to dating and unsure of how it’s meant to be now that I am in my mid 20’s!
bama_bbq Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 To be clear, these are two different guys, correct? The first guy probably sees you as more than a friend since you've kissed. He'll probably try to kiss you again and you might have to turn him down if you just want to be friends; it's probably better to have this "rejection" sooner rather than later (if he develops feelings for you, he might have a hard time being your friend later). The second guy probably is attracted to you, but you made the right move paying for your share. He'll probably also try to escalate things, but as long as you don't go along with it you can probably remain just friends. Is this what you actually want?
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