XxericexX Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Hey, This is my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t290413/ I was with a girl for 3 years and she left me for this other guy we've known. She has only met this guy once and they will be in a LDR. He's coming to visit her later this month. It pains me to know she can be like this. We broke up in June, and I did everything wrong - pleading, begging, asking for her back. I'm currently 2 weeks into NC after 1.5 months of chasing her. I think it has been good for me, lately. Her brother called me yesterday and told me my ex couldn't sleep because she misses me and she admitted to still care for me a lot. When he asked her to call me she told him "I can't" and when he asked her to leave the other guy because they haven't even started a "real" relationship yet, she told him "I don't know if we'll work out, but I don't want to hurt him". The next day when her brother called my ex, he told me she was feeling a lot better, but not happy...and still talking to her new bf online. He asked me to call her, and I know it's a bad idea...he said: "This is your last shot, it's up to you." So, I'm not supposed to know that my ex still cares for me and misses me, but she does. I feel like we could get back together, but the guy always convinces her to "give him a chance" whenever she tells him she wants to break up with him. I think maintaining NC is for the best, and it's really all up in the air. Now, I have false hope again...What do I do?
onlyafool Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 She's conflicted. She misses you, but doesn't want to hurt Skype-guy. This is a receipe for disaster and I personally think you should keep your distance and ask the brother to stop giving you the breadcrumbs. They aren't doing you any good. Also, it's not your responsibility to call. It's hers. IF she really misses you, she should be the one calling.
Author XxericexX Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Thanks OnlyAFool, I competely agree with you. I almost sent her a text saying "If you ever want to try again, contact me...until then, good luck with your life" I would've regretted it. The only thing I can do is move on, and if she truly loves me...I wouldn't have to fight for it right?
onlyafool Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 You would have totally regretted it! Good work not sending it! You fought for her for 1.5 months and she wasn't having it. So you are 100% correct, time to move on. This might sound harsh, but she's dead weight in your life. Don't let the conflict within herself take you down.
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