Lilmisus Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 My manager from my old job is currently pregnant and is expecting next month I believe. A former coworker is throwing her a baby shower at my old job Sunday before the restaurant opens, and all of the workers there are invited and a majority of them are going, including some of the guys. Like most of you know, I quit my old job because I dated my coworker for a year there. In March, we broke up and I found out a couple weeks afterward that it was because he was dating another coworker who was also a friend of mine, and it's incredibly likely that he cheated on me with her, rumor has it that he did. It screwed me up very badly, and I fell into depression for about a month or two and it wasn't until the end of May when I quit that job and went to my new one that I was really able to be happy and move forward with my life again. I have been beyond happy these past couple of months and my life hasn't been as amazing as it has been recently. I've tried dating again, am currently talking to a couple of guys, and I'm really moving on from my ex. But, I'm incredibly worried that he or his girlfriend (who he currently lives with) will be in attendance of the baby shower. I know he might not be, but she most likely will be, and the thought of seeing her again after moving so forward with my life, makes me feel very anxious and makes me realize that I'm just NOT ready to confront them again. In all honesty, I feel like I could handle seeing my ex much better than I could handle her, just because I felt betrayed and replaced by her, and that just made me feel like sh*t for far too long. To see the girl who took my place and the guy I loved again...just isn't something I really want to do. Several of my friends are encouraging me to go, especially since I haven't seen most of my former coworkers since I quit a few months ago, and they keep telling me how much they miss me. Each of them have said that they will keep her away from me and will stay by my side the entire time (one has even agreed to be a b*tch to her and punch her if necessary even though they used to be friends), but I'm not sure if that will be enough to keep me calm cool and collected, ya know? I used to have panic attacks and I'm afraid I might suffer from one if I see her, especially if she's with him and they're all over each other like I hear that they are. I just am not sure if I'm ready and can handle that just yet. What do you guys think? Should I swallow my fear and go and see my friends and give my congratulations and best wishes to my manager? Or should I not risk it (I honestly don't want to...) and continue trying to heal and push that part out of my life some more?
HardknockLife Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Well there shouldnt be any reason for you not to attend.Your ex is still alive, should you stop breathing? Just go there and act like everything is alright. If he says hi, say hi and go back to what youre doing...
Author Lilmisus Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Well there shouldnt be any reason for you not to attend.Your ex is still alive, should you stop breathing? Just go there and act like everything is alright. If he says hi, say hi and go back to what youre doing... I'm sorry but weird example hahaha Definitely not. I'd be fine seeing him again, but like I said, it'd be more of an issue to see her. I could probably say hi and even hang out with him again, no issue (even smiled at him last time I saw him a couple months ago), but I don't want to see them together. I tried so damn hard to act like she didn't exist while I worked there in the last two months, and been trying hard to push them from my mind, so to have to face them after doing so, would just be kind of hard, ya know?
HardknockLife Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 So youre saying that im a weirdo? Yea i understand where youre coming from. Its your call now, if you dont feel comfortable dont go. Mean while me and you can go for a dinner
luvsickpuppy Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I think you should go, looking like a million bucks and pay absolutely zero notice to them. Your doing amazing with your life, and have no room for them in it. You have the right to see your previous manager at one of her happiest times, and your friends who will all be happy for her. Nobody can make you feel inferior with out your concentration, and there is no reason you should allow it. Your rocking your new job, mingling with new men, you have the world in the palm of your hands and are ready to play with it you got this girl
luvsickpuppy Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I think you should go, looking like a million bucks and pay absolutely zero notice to them. Your doing amazing with your life, and have no room for them in it. You have the right to see your previous manager at one of her happiest times, and your friends who will all be happy for her. Nobody can make you feel inferior with out your consent, and there is no reason you should allow it. Your rocking your new job, mingling with new men, you have the world in the palm of your hands and are ready to play with it you got this girl!
Author Lilmisus Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 So, I went today and had a lot of fun! He wasn't there, thank God, but even if he was, I probably wouldn't have even noticed, I was too busy having fun with my good friend who I went with and talking to my old friends that I hadn't seen in a while. I decided that since I was going, I wanted to get a banging gift, so I made my friend a diaper cake, and so many people loved it. The only person who I wasn't on good terms with who was there, was my ex's good friend's (now) ex girlfriend. Who also so happens to be my ex's girlfriend's best friend who works there still. Since the diaper cake was so big, my friend and I needed help getting it in, and she helped us make room for it on the table with the gifts, and I smiled at her, told her thank you, and we exchanged small talk for a bit. She even went as far as saying that she missed my friend and I a lot there - even though she called me a witch just two months ago (one month after I quit) But I really am glad I went and didn't listen to the fear that I was feeling
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