concernedsis1 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I really didn't know where to post this - I'm just looking for some advice. My sister met a guy from the other side of the country when he was visiting on business 6 months ago. They knew each other for two weeks while he was here. They stayed in contact casually after he left and then 6 weeks later he asked her if she wanted to be in a relationship and she said yes. Throughout that time they've communicated a few times a week since he's busy with work and school (he went back to school at a late age). He was living in a really bad situation and complained to her all the time about his roommates and how much he wanted to move out but couldn't afford the rent. He told her how much he missed her and would love it if she would move where he lived. After a few months he convinced her to move across country and in with him. He told her that it would be ideal they move in together because he can't afford rent on his own and he doesn't want to live with his roommates anymore and of course he loves her. She agreed and now is moving in with him in a few weeks after not seeing him since when they first met. Besides that I'm on his facebook page and he has a lot of bad sayings about women and how much he hates them. He even refers to women as "b*itches." She tells me he's just joking and he told her that she is the only worthwhile woman out there and all other women are terrible like his ex's. He also loves movies that show violence towards women and brags about it. The other thing that bothers me is that he moved across country to be with his now ex girlfriend who cheated on him, threw him out of their apartment and moved the guy she cheated on him with in their apartment. I'm afraid he might be trying to get revenge on his ex through my sister and do the same thing to her since he talks about how he moved across country to be with his ex and she cheated the whole time. None of her friends seem concerned. Am i just overreacting or should I be concerned that she's moving in with a complete stranger across the country who seems to be very bitter since his last breakup, which she says was about a year before they met? He's 25 and she's 28.
Hot Chick Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Yes, I would be concerned. Is she leaving behind a job and going out there without an income? Hope not. You met him in person, right? Did he seem like a stable person, or one who might go psycho? Did he seem in love with your sister?
Zaphod B Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 (edited) Yes, you should be very concerned. That guy sounds very dodgy and I can't believe that any decent guy would enjoy watching movies that depict violence towards women. Edited August 3, 2011 by Zaphod B
Author concernedsis1 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Yes, I would be concerned. Is she leaving behind a job and going out there without an income? Hope not. You met him in person, right? Did he seem like a stable person, or one who might go psycho? Did he seem in love with your sister? Yes she's leaving behind a job. She saved a lot of money over the last few years and she's using that money until she gets a job there. I did meet him in person once. He was very odd. He talks about these big dreams he has to become a bestselling author or start a new computer system to rival Microsoft, etc. When I met him he said he was trying to find someone to fund his projects. It just makes me think he's using her. He also talks about how he always had his heartbroken and how he doesn't trust anyone. I find it odd that he would all of the sudden just trust my sister.
Hot Chick Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 That really does worry me. It's very possible he is unemployed and looking to her as a meal ticket.
Author concernedsis1 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 That really does worry me. It's very possible he is unemployed and looking to her as a meal ticket. When he was over here he was training for the job he currently works for so he's not unemployed. But he was before this job and I know he took a significant pay cut with the job he's in. He always says he doesn't know how he's going to pay for college and that he was able to in his old job. I've told my sister this and she just doesn't get it. She thinks that he loves her and that when they met they had instant chemistry.
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