henderson14 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 (edited) I met a girl out at at bar this weekend and things went great. She seemed overjoyed when I asked for her number she was doing all the classic signs of flirting like slapping my chest and touching me and I had her laughing etc. The thing is, is that she is the first girl I have ever called that I met randomly at a bar so I'm not sure what to expect. I met a girl before at a bar but we had mutual friends. I met up with her days after and it was like she was a totally different person so I'm apprehensive about meeting girls that way. Its just fun to try to get numbers and usually when I wake up the next morning I rethink things. So I have two questions. Guys - How often do you actually call a girl when you get her # from a bar? Girls - How often do you return calls from a guy you met at a bar? And would you talk to and give your # to a random guy you met at a bar? Edited August 3, 2011 by henderson14
Mr. Slim Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I've retired from such silliness, but back in the day I would call probably 75% of them. I would say one in four times, I would sober up and it wouldn't seem like such a good idea, for whatever reason. It actually *is* a goofy thing to do, especially if you didn't really get to find out much about them personally at the bar. So I understand your apprehension. You're basically cold calling a stranger, except you know what they look like (and even that can be hazy thanks to booze). MOST of the time, I would quickly realize that whatever I liked about them at 2AM didn't translate into compatible personalities. Occasionally, it would go well and I'd get a couple of dates out of it. Keep in mind, for me this was like hardcore clubbing/bar hopping/bump and grind on the dance floor or get their number while they're waiting in line to go the bathroom type shenanigans. Maybe you met this one at an upscale hookah lounge and you were stone cold sober and actually heard every word she said. YMMV.
refurb Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I can already tell this is not going to go well by the fact you're posting such a silly question. However, you're starting to get it. People meet in bars, have a good time, but a day or two later (and when they're sober) the interest has waned a bit. It happens, no biggie. So you got a girls number at the bar, then gave her a call? Well, I'll give you an A+ on your technique. You're doing everything right. The thing that has to change is your expectations. Most of the time, it won't go anywhere, that's fine. The point is is that you're putting yourself out there. You should be approaching it in this manner: 1. Meet girl. 2. Like girl. 3. Get girl's phone number. 4. Call girl (leave message if she doesn't answer). 5. Go do something else and stop thinking about it. You've done everything you can. The smartest thing to do is go hit on some other girls. Stop counting your eggs before they've hatched. Good luck!!! RF
Author henderson14 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 (edited) I can already tell this is not going to go well by the fact you're posting such a silly question. However, you're starting to get it. People meet in bars, have a good time, but a day or two later (and when they're sober) the interest has waned a bit. It happens, no biggie. So you got a girls number at the bar, then gave her a call? Well, I'll give you an A+ on your technique. You're doing everything right. The thing that has to change is your expectations. Most of the time, it won't go anywhere, that's fine. The point is is that you're putting yourself out there. You should be approaching it in this manner: 1. Meet girl. 2. Like girl. 3. Get girl's phone number. 4. Call girl (leave message if she doesn't answer). 5. Go do something else and stop thinking about it. You've done everything you can. The smartest thing to do is go hit on some other girls. Stop counting your eggs before they've hatched. Good luck!!! RF I never said anything about my expectations. I was just wondering what is considered normal. It was not a clubby bar. More like a college type bar but in a big city. And she called me back. Edited August 3, 2011 by henderson14
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