bikinibeach Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 god heard my prayers and decided to end my suffering........He put me in the path of the. PERFECT. male physical specimen.....oh heavens. oh my oh my..WOW. is all that i can say. curly dark hair, dark eyes with thick glossy lashes, dimples, cheekbones, perfect teeth, muscular arms, 6'3, perfect six pack and well.....let's just say he is perfect in other places as well- my god. he's also really sweet and super funny and easy going. a nice guy. runs a contracting biz. same age as me for a change (i like it) it feels heavenly to compare someone new and find that my ex comes up short on every account. he and i had a connection i'd never felt before that kept us hooked on each other. something like that is special but he couldn't honor that. i think it's natural to compare new love interests to our ex when we first get out there. the first few times left me miserable. this one feels amazing! can't say i'm i love, or that i'm even looking for that right now (i was clear about that with him) but wow- i am the luckiest girl in the world. can't lie, i did find myself thinking sexual things about my ex today but they are slowly being replaced by this new dude. and other things i am bringing into my life. in retrospect, i find it so ironic that after my BIG breakup 2 years ago, i took a year and a half (nc the WHOLE TIME and i had almost married that guy! long story) to get myself back together and i finally felt ready to date again and give it my all. unfortunately, i met that rotten ex bf i once had and he used me as a rebound (because he refused to heal from his last relationship- he is still fixated on that death grip he's got on "so-called "best friendship" with his crazy ex, as far as i know) and i messed me up pretty bad. i think i was truly able to start coping better when i looked at him for what he was. i stepped out of it all for a minute and imagined he was a contestant behind a curtain on a dating game show....would i choose him?? example: me: "contestant number one, your girlfriend goes out on a limb and agrees to go dancing with you and one of your girl "friends" who hates her for no reason and is always making googly eyes at you and inviting you over late at night for tea. your girl is nice to her anyway and things get better as the night goes on. it's almost one a.m, the night is drawing to a close, and you haven't seen your girlfriend in 2 days. what do you do? him: "that's easy! invite the weird friend to come back to my apartment with my girlfriend and i so she can awkwardly play with the cat for 20 minutes while my girl and i talk to each other on the couch. when she leaves, i'll just say "bye! see ya!" from the couch, as my longtime "friend" shows herself out, into the dark street!! do i win a prize???" i think i may come up with some more funny dating show q and a's. if you have any, post below. thanks to all, AGAIN, for talking me down from the ledge of breaking nc, so many times!! it's working xoxo
patagonia Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 (edited) well at least he's good looking I'm confused though, why is this called the worlds best rebound? Edit: Is the three bouncing bunnies indicating you have had nc with your ex for 3weeks and a day? When did the break up occur? Does this man know he is a rebound? I'm still confused! Edited August 3, 2011 by patagonia
Duckduckgoose Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 He's a good distraction if nothing else. Just keep in mind you labelled him "rebound". So don't be surprised if it doesn't last, and know that sometimes the rebound hurts worse when it ends then the relationship you were rebounding from. Glad you found such a nice piece of candy to enjoy though
Author bikinibeach Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 i labelled him 'rebound' due to common beliefs based on timing. i called him 'world's best' because you are ideally supposed to 'rebound' with someone better than your ex. well, my ex has no chance of that. and if he saw this guy i am with now, he would have a panic attack!!!!! also i am not sitting here pining for my ex and using this guy to make him jealous or to stop thinking about him. i know how that feels- ****ty. this guy is moving for work in a month and a half. and it's definitely not just sexual, i really like him as a person. summer fling would be more like it and hey, you never know!
0hpenelope Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 i labelled him 'rebound' due to common beliefs based on timing. i called him 'world's best' because you are ideally supposed to 'rebound' with someone better than your ex. well, my ex has no chance of that. and if he saw this guy i am with now, he would have a panic attack!!!!! also i am not sitting here pining for my ex and using this guy to make him jealous or to stop thinking about him. i know how that feels- ****ty. this guy is moving for work in a month and a half. and it's definitely not just sexual, i really like him as a person. summer fling would be more like it and hey, you never know! This is great, bikinibeach!
marqueemoon4 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 i labelled him 'rebound' due to common beliefs based on timing. i called him 'world's best' because you are ideally supposed to 'rebound' with someone better than your ex. well, my ex has no chance of that. and if he saw this guy i am with now, he would have a panic attack!!!!! also i am not sitting here pining for my ex and using this guy to make him jealous or to stop thinking about him. i know how that feels- ****ty. this guy is moving for work in a month and a half. and it's definitely not just sexual, i really like him as a person. summer fling would be more like it and hey, you never know! We're on the outs already?
Author bikinibeach Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 mm4: oh man...what is worse than being broken up with by text message? dumped via forum post??? i could never do that to you, homeslice! we cool
Author bikinibeach Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 This is great, bikini beach! thanks babe! im doing it for all of us!! lol gotta go..he's on the way over and i have to do one of those things necessary as a women when dating...shave my legs tmi? lol
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Have you seen him n@ked yet? That would be the greatest irony if he turned out to have a 4" pen!s or something.
Author bikinibeach Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 ahem. the greatest irony is that it is GREAT...so great that um.... i'm kind of scared ...but that is for another forum. i'm sure i'll find out what is wrong with him at some point. i know he smokes weed but he's from vancouver. lol
dreamingoftigers Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I think weed is in the Vancouver survival guide. LOL
0hpenelope Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 thanks babe! im doing it for all of us!! lol gotta go..he's on the way over and i have to do one of those things necessary as a women when dating...shave my legs tmi? lol Not at all!! You're taking care of yourself, putting your best foot forward. Hope you will have fun tonight!
marqueemoon4 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 mm4: oh man...what is worse than being broken up with by text message? dumped via forum post??? i could never do that to you, homeslice! we cool I'd like to respond but I'm going full NC. All joking aside, glad to hear things are going well for you.
patagonia Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I'd like to respond but I'm going full NC. All joking aside, glad to hear things are going well for you. LOL nice, NC all the way man...but I hate to break it to you...You just broke NC she's shaving her legs right now though, just for you or umm for the other guy?
Nohbody Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Be careful with that heart of yours - somebody could get hurt All the best!
Author bikinibeach Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 I am not in love with this guy. But last night we laid in the dark by my huge window looking at thé stars and listening to the coyotes and crickets. He traced circles on my back and we talkedand talked..laughed and laughed. I found myself wanting to tell him that i love him! I just love that there is someone like h im in the world..ridiculously beautiful but grounded, connected...he's always smiling (the weed?) and so childlike in his enthusiasm for life. Also he lost a parent recently too. Where did all the love i had for my ex go? Not to myself, i could have taken better care of me this past month. ...has it been building up behind the floodgates ? I wonder if i should be worried about the true and mysterious origin of these feelings. thankyou all for your hilarious and supportive comments... Still reeling from mm4 deciding to invoke some nc action on my ass. I have a msg for him: hey i know we're not talking but i was wondering what flavor my next message to you should be, wholegrain, rye, sourdough....? is very important thatyou respond.
quankanne Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 laughing my butt off at the Vancouver comment congrats on meeting such a great guy, I hope you both enjoy the relationship to its fullest. Now, will you please post a photo of this hottie!!!! :laugh:
marqueemoon4 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I am not in love with this guy. But last night we laid in the dark by my huge window looking at thé stars and listening to the coyotes and crickets. He traced circles on my back and we talkedand talked..laughed and laughed. I found myself wanting to tell him that i love him! I just love that there is someone like h im in the world..ridiculously beautiful but grounded, connected...he's always smiling (the weed?) and so childlike in his enthusiasm for life. Also he lost a parent recently too. Where did all the love i had for my ex go? Not to myself, i could have taken better care of me this past month. ...has it been building up behind the floodgates ? I wonder if i should be worried about the true and mysterious origin of these feelings. thankyou all for your hilarious and supportive comments... Still reeling from mm4 deciding to invoke some nc action on my ass. I have a msg for him: hey i know we're not talking but i was wondering what flavor my next message to you should be, wholegrain, rye, sourdough....? is very important thatyou respond. sourdough all the way. when I lived in Portland, OR they had some of the best sourdough bread I've ever had. ah krap, I broke NC yet again. i'm just not good at this.
Author bikinibeach Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 sourdough all the way. when I lived in Portland, OR they had some of the best sourdough bread I've ever had. ah krap, I broke NC yet again. i'm just not good at this. tehe! ah dont feel bad. .. Nohbody shot me down, ive been there
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