sweet honey eyes Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I've been dating this guy for 18 months. I was not ready to start a serious relationship as I was just divorced. He pushed into it and practically moved into my house (sleep here, eat here, showers here..., no contributing to nothing). During the weekends -all of them- he brings his son, with serious behavioral problems -pulling knives at him, his mother and grandparents, etc-. I was supposed to deal with it, because I was the "love of his life"... To make story short: he has facebook, over 250 ppl more than half women (he refuses to add me, no pics of me either, but lots of his son and himself). I have 50ppl on my fb and he questions every guy that I have (3 politicians and 2 male coworkers). After 18 months of this intense, unbalanced and suffocating relationship, he decided to go on vacations with his son to his country overseas for one month. He did not invite me. Didn't even consider it and last year was very tough for me as, among other things, I lost my father. Anyway, I felt hurt and angry at him at the same time. He told me to "stop bitching" and to stop repeating myself about how hurt I was with his vacations... I wonder why did I waste such a precious time of my life?? Why we don't see the difference between being loved and being used/abused??... Funny thing, he still thinks I am wrong and he is right.. Am I overreacting?
Zaphod B Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 No you're not over reacting. He is clearly a user and has no respect for you or your feelings. If he won't put you on Facebook then clearly he has something to hide. Probably other girlfriends who he doesn't want you knowing about or them knowing about you. Don't let him get away with treating you like this. He's treating you like dirt. Those sort of guys make me so angry and give the rest of us a bad name.
Author sweet honey eyes Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Thank you so much for your answer. Two days ago, he sent me an email saying that he deactivated his facebook account and that he has lost of his contacts.. I told him.. you are one year late at least... Too late.. I've made up my mind that he is worthless... Learning experience... Thanks, again...
Author sweet honey eyes Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 This man is clearly insane & has no real intention of having a real relationship with you. I would suggest moving on and not contacting him again. A restraning order of some form should not be far out of the question. The real problem in this situation however is not this man, it is you. WHY on EARTH are you letting this man do these things to you? What massive insucrity issues/abandonment issues are you dealing with that make you thin tolorating this kind of behavior as acceptable? Lose this loser & figure our why you are acctacting men who bring no value to your life. If you don't do these things you are going to keep repeting this pattern over & over. You deserve so much better. Thank you for your reply. The answer is easy: because I fell in love with him... He did not start being that way. It was kind of a process, little by little. He was very sweet, romantic.... at the beginning.. little by little his real self was showing up, but at that point you are in the spider web.. kind of numbed... But I opened my eyes too and my brain took over my heart, thank God!.. It's over, forever!. Thanks again
Author sweet honey eyes Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 No you're not over reacting. He is clearly a user and has no respect for you or your feelings. If he won't put you on Facebook then clearly he has something to hide. Probably other girlfriends who he doesn't want you knowing about or them knowing about you. Don't let him get away with treating you like this. He's treating you like dirt. Those sort of guys make me so angry and give the rest of us a bad name. The following answer was for you. I'm not familiar with posting or this program. Sorry. Thank you so much for your answer. Two days ago, he sent me an email saying that he deactivated his facebook account and that he has lost of his contacts.. I told him.. you are one year late at least... Too late.. I've made up my mind that he is worthless... Learning experience... Thanks, again...
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