irc333 Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Okay, guys.....when you asked a woman out, like get her number or something...what was usually their response and outcome IF they were not interested. 1. They actually told you, "Sorry, but I'm just not interested. 2. Put on their poker face, gave you their # anyhow, and just decided internally, "IF he calls, I just won't return his messages." Which most often occurred in this scenario with you guys, 1 or 2?
grkBoy Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I get all of the above...although rarely do I get the truth that they're not interested. Most of the time it's some excuse like a BF or they give me a number they never answer. We can question to death why women never just come clean right there and say they're not interested in you, but let's be honest here. Maybe a few of us will happily take the honesty, close the book, and move on...but too many others won't. In discussing with women about why they more likely make excuses or "vanish" on a guy, I usually get stories of guys who either come back with 1000 questions asking "why" when the girl gives an honest rejection. IMHO the guy is trying to also convince her to give him a shot, which women have attested to. The guys who think persistence will pay off. Some guys just turn into babies. Suddenly they'll call the girl something nasty and mean, and move on. Based on how childish I've seen guys get when it comes to women, I can't blame women anymore for lying in this case or dodging. They want to avoid conflict. Some simply feel better about lying and not rejecting a guy whom their parents and friends would tell her to try out...but I think most of the time it's about avoiding conflict. For you guys, here's two things to bear in mind: 1) If you talk to a girl for an hour or more, no mention of any man in her life, then when you try to ask her out or get her number, she suddenly has a BF...she's lying. I have not met a woman to this day who is in a RL and won't mention something about it within the first 10 minutes of conversation. Just accept she's not into you and won't ever be. Move on. 2) If she gives you a number...you call, get her voice mail, leave ONE message and stop. I don't buy into the BS anymore that she didn't get your call or her cell service is bad. Come on now. Between caller ID, phones telling us she missed a call, and voicemail, she knows you called. Don't be a chump and start calling her over and over hoping she'll change her mind. If she sent you to voice mail and you don't hear from her in 1-2 days, she pretty much rejected you. Delete the number and move on.
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