pianomanwoman Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Here is some advice for you who are going through a break up. If you don't believe me, just look at my Aug 13th Post from 2010! (He joined a cult and found a new girl????) I am over him. I am sending him back the poems and stories that I wrote for him. I heard that they are all doing fine. I can not believe even for one minute I was in love with him at all! In fact I moved on to a new relationship, which after three months wasn't going my way, so I dumped him but hey we are still friends and I am looking for a new love that I deserve. Rule # 1 dont love anyone that says they can't love you. I'm probably Co dependant or something, but my new ex is still in my life, and I know that hes not going to commit, so on to the next. My new saying is "men are like buses, unrealiable and almost never on time" So you wouldn't believe the parties I go to, the food I eat the man magnet I have become! You can't stay sad over your ex. Life is too short. Practice the NO CONTACT rule here and then laugh at why I was crying every night writing poems for these fools who didn't want a real life -real live- love healthy relationship with ME! I also recommend THE EX FACTOR a very good book on moving on to something healthy. Good luck with your break ups and stay single and if its not right, then move on to the next one! I promise you, you are not going to miss your ex no matter what you have been through. Don't contact him/her and Read the Love Shack and I wish you happiness and LOVE! Pianomanwoman 1
jchips Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Wow! What a great inspiration you & your story are, Pianomw. I'm still at the crying-myself-to-sleep stage, and I'd LOVE to be at the point where I said "What did I ever see in that guy?" Thanks so much for reminding me it will get better and broken hearts really can heal. 1
andrewsam20 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Thanks.. Ur post helped me a lot!! Can u tell the DO's and DONT during NC just wanna check if i'm following it.
Author pianomanwoman Posted January 17, 2016 Author Posted January 17, 2016 Back in 1997 I made friends with a man who lied about being married. Still I became the other woman and fell in love. Now 15 years of NC, he called to wish me happy birthday. I was excited to say hello, but I was afraid to let him back into my life. Remember how that person hurt you and manipulated you. I got to send him some emails but after no response from him..he said he's enjoying his life is wealthy and traveling the world. I figured out that my sacrifice I made for him when I was young and the risks I took did not justify the behaviour. So..in addition to NC here's what you all on LS should do. Change your number. Tell friends there is no hope for reconciliation. Don't answer any emotional "bomb" they may Try. Then like me, 15 freeking years later.. I said to him..ya me too! ...Hey babe I'm sorry I'm in Bangladesh with my NEW husuband three kids and one on the way. I. Other words you are not physically available to that sick person and you punish him for victimizing you. You can always keep emailing them for money that gets rid of them FAST. Of course don't give them your address or let them call you (my schedule is too busy and with caller I'd I can ignore him). This guy was laughing at me for not wanting him back!!! Narcissistic! Haha! Too bad for him he had me fooled. You can do it too, but I guarantee they will be back 15 years later and sadly not to apologize for they way they treated you back then..they want an opening. Not closures. And I do mean that in a sexual way too!
Author pianomanwoman Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 Thanks.. Ur post helped me a lot!! Can u tell the DO's and DONT during NC just wanna check if i'm following it. One, Don't pick up the phone, you know he's only drunk and alone Two Don't let him in you will have to kick him out again Three Don't get under him you aint getting over him Four you can't be friends you'll hate yourself in the morning I got new Rules I got them. Don't pick up the phone Change your number Say Good bye, don't set yourself up for more heartache Read over again.
Author pianomanwoman Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 I'd like to reply to my own post. I mostly posted to help others but also for my own well being. My first mistake was in 2005 falling for a guy who was already taken. Once I spilt with him (he joined a motivational group, which excluded me from the relationship and would not leave the group) that lasted for 5 years. I met immediately a man who had an arranged marriage and did not want to try to stay with me. That went on for four years. Then, of course you know I had a MM, in a course of a year, and just those flying monkeys his friends, are still my buddies we go to events and restaurants together. So its just as fun being alone, without a relationship, having fun to yourself, instead of committing to one person, who is unavailable. Avoid MM and players a all cost, because you will pay for it both ways. NC means, forget him/her once and for all, as if you never met them. The words they told you are not true or relevant, and I have the poetry and love letters to prove it. Just to clarify my emotional rants.
preraph Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 You know you have moved on when you don't care what the person thinks if you happen to run into them or someone says something to them about you. It can be a long road. Congrats. 1
fredflint Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 ...Rule # 1 dont love anyone that says they can't love you. ... Pianomanwoman Exactly! And I'd add to that ... don't love anyone that SHOWS they can't love you, either
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