Single Sid Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Been split from childs other parent for about a decade, always maintained contact because we have a child. recent minor incident here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t289894/ed70655e3f22dd760653900ef00bda31 Im looking for people thats probably in my shoes or been in my shoes or maybe even fast approaching being in my shoes. Still nc, the nc is no problem what so ever. but still feel the recent confusion instilled with a little pain, not too major, but enough for me to stand up and half take notice! Anyway, recent few days thinking has left me slightly positve in some ways. i guess what she did recently, and because it made me take a little notice, (and yes because i did that i caused myself my own minor heart ache again, which i know will go soon, and i know it will be very soon) made me also realise that many moons ago this was the time that i was dreading, but none the less it was also my goal. Being able to break that final shackle that is probably holding us both back in life now that the child can cope with her life between us without the need for pleasantries. In a sense i see why im a little sad as its a time that i thought was forthcoming a long time ago and now its here im also happy to think ive made it through the past with my head held high and confident and with respect from many. Im still in contact with childs granny on other side and probably will keep contact i guess. we have contact/send cards for occasions etc. sometimes but not regular, me and child will have a day out with her and ill treat us all, simple but sweet. ive no qualms in keeping such simple contact, we hold a lot of respect for each other. Would that be wrong on the terms of NC? even if not, would that be considered a good idea to stay in contact with granparent? or do you think eventually even that friendship will just disappear due to my nc on the other parent? the answer doesnt affect my nc but would be interesting to hear from others if its happened one way or the other with them? Any other parents in similar? im not looking for any loop holes or answers to life, but a mere incite.
Author Single Sid Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 Is LS holding me to NC? i guess few here been where ive been oh well, looks like i have to walk the road alone. Having a long past i think ill keep an eye on others posts and maybe ill be able to help someone else one day. thanks anyway.
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