One of the oddest dating problems to have.

[Mrlonelyone]

Is to not have any dating problems to speak of.

 

I am happily uninterested in any particular person, in any romantic way, right now. I mean that.

 

This is not in the bitter "I give/gave up kind of way". I just don't have any romantic interest.

 

Being what I am I get stares from men and women.

 

Being who I am I get odd/creepy contacts from a number of people.

 

From the man at one of Chicago's Famous Maxwell Street polish stands giving me the "why do you look so serious, you should smile more, I like you". (an exact quote) If he only knew, or he did which can be even stranger sometimes.

 

My best male childhood friend came back from Las Vegas, after living out there for many years, and was a little too touchy feely. Being around him makes me feel he's like this cartoon character. Like he's having conflicted thoughts.

 

Both woman S and woman E. I had to call up Woman E's company and tell them to stop freaking calling trying to sell me tickets (which they based on what I was told they in source to their own back office oddly enough). Got a request to be linked to on "linked in" from woman S's brother. Either and both things are odd and crazy considering the magnitude of their histrionics.

 

Why after all the being made out to be a "stalker", "creep" or whatever misapplied word, with such sound and fury?...let me stop now before I get sucked in.

 

Six months ago I would have analysed all of those things now I just really don't. I would rather play "Shogun 2: Total War" and "Red Dead Redemption" or see a movie alone (Gotta see that "Cowboys VS Aliens"), or read a paper on de Broglie-Bohm Mechanics for fun. I just don't want, need people at all.

 

Is something wrong with me that I just don't care about this crap? I mean here I am honestly a 5 on the Kinsey scale, attractive to both genders, attracted more to men than women. I am alone and ok with it. Perhaps, too ok with it?

 

I know some of y'all think the only post with a point has a question or a declaration that so and so is such and such. Let me say that it is so that I just don't care for relationships anymore. Yet, perhaps, there is something wrong with that?

 

Has anyone else been through a period like this? Tell me about it. How did it end?

Edited August 2, 2011 by Mrlonelyone

[Queen Zenobia]

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Six months ago I would have analysed all of those things now I just really don't. I would rather play "Shogun 2: Total War" and "Red Dead Redemption" or see a movie alone (Gotta see that "Cowboys VS Aliens"), or read a paper on de Broglie-Bohm Mechanics for fun. I just don't want, need people at all.

 

Is something wrong with me that I just don't care about this crap? I mean here I am honestly a 5 on the Kinsey scale, attractive to both genders, attracted more to men than women. I am alone and ok with it. Perhaps, too ok with it?

 

I know some of y'all think the only post with a point has a question or a declaration that so and so is such and such. Let me say that it is so that I just don't care for relationships anymore. Yet, perhaps, there is something wrong with that?

 

Has anyone else been through a period like this? Tell me about it. How did it end?

 

Before I met my fiance I was pretty much like this. Sure I went on some dates, but honestly I never really cared to find/have someone. I was too engrossed in hobbies and interests, academics etc. (much to the pleasure of my semi-conservative parents who had any number of irrational fears concerning young American men).

 

There's really nothing wrong with it, as long as you're ok with it. And I think I turned out ok: I found a great guy who has a lot of things in common with me who I love dearly (and my parents actually like him ).

 

I think you'll be ok.

[Mrlonelyone]

The thing is I haven't gone on "some dates". I would not agree to one if asked. I have zero interest. I guess you were in a similar place. Thanks for the input.

 

Has anyone else even been in a place of zero interest, such that even if asked out they would not go no matter who it was?

[sm1tten]

I went through a period like this twice - once during my early twenties, and once during my mid twenties - shortly after I moved to Chicago, actually. I was completely uninterested in meeting people at all, though - romantically or otherwise. I pretty much inhabited my own little world. I isolated myself, threw myself into school or projects or whatever. I didn't date. I didn't have sex.

 

I really don't know why these periods broke for me. It was kind of like one day I just felt like I wanted to be around people again. Once I stopped closing myself off, the people came back.

 

For me, I sometimes just need a break from my own life and I just totally tune out.

[Mrlonelyone]

I guess this will just end when it ends. The thing is I am not really isolated from people. I socialize I'm just not interested in romance in any way shape or form. Maybe all the absurd bull$hit I get tossed in that area has just turned me off.