alwaystraveling Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 My partner travels a lot. she is gone 10days and home 4days. I find myself wanting to call her all the time. She works very hard and I understand that but I miss her. I call and wake her up for work and she calls me on her way into work. We talk before she goes to bed. I guess one of the biggest things is I do all the talking, she will answer a direct question but doesnt usually say much.. She does lots of taking at work but still.. Sometimes its like Im talking to a wall. Our conversations are usually very short cause she gets mad if I ask if she is ok or if something is wrong. So when she comes home I just want to hold her and never let go... She says Im pushing her away. I know I need to give her some space but I would think being gone 10days would be space.. all I want is for her to show more intrest in our relationship.. I think her traveling has made me more insercure,
cerridwen Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Do you have other outlets for socializing? Because frankly, you sound more lonely than you do insecure.
Author alwaystraveling Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 I have a full-time job and a part-time job. Im going to drop my part-time job down to one day per week and star school. She tells me all the time I need to go do things, I feel guilty if I think about having fun while she is out working. And you know people always ask where is your other half. My ex and I hardly ever did things together. I dont want someone else to fill any voids I may have.. I love her and dont want to keep pushing her away by holding her so tight.. Im hoping school will keep my mind busy.. she is a great woman.
Author alwaystraveling Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 Well, I friday a week ago she got a new job offer.. She didnt tell me until sat evening.. she had only arrived back home on wed night. but any way.. we had spent thursday eve fri eve and sat afternoon together.. after going to the movies on sat we went home. she seemed as if something was bothering her so i asked if she was ok? she replied "just a lot on my mind" i asked if she wanted to talk she said no..i didnt press the issue but about a hour later i asked her again.. thats when she told me about the job offer.. and then told me it was in another state and told me she was not sure if she wanted me to go.. of course i was upset and try to find a understanding of wth is going on.. so now its @8om and she tells me i need to go stay with a friend while she thinks about what she wants to do.. so i did.. the next day i call and she is says she is still thinking and will call me later to come home and talk.. so @4pm sunday she calls and wants to talk ..well she says she is taking the job and moving that she needs my house key and that i need to find somewhere elese to stay.. we have lived together for 2+yrs.. i amm between pay checks and have about $80 in the bank.. i beg her not to do this .. she tells me that i need to work on me and if i can get me back to where i need to be maybe we can work on it.. so i get some clothes together and she tells me i can get the rest of my stuff when she gets back from out of town(for work) i have no where to go.. so i all friends and stay with them.. i just cant believe this 2.5yrs and the house sits empty for 8-10days at a time and she kicks me out.. what sorta person does this...
anmolmark Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable in some way, or a sense of vulnerability which threatens one's self-image. A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value, and one or more of their capabilities, lacks trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary, and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by "going wrong" in the future. This is a common trait, which only differs in degree between people. This is not to be confused with humility, which involves recognizing one's shortcomings but still maintaining a healthy dose of self-confidence. Insecurity is not an objective evaluation of one's ability but an emotional interpretation, as two people with the same capabilities may have entirely different levels of insecurity. Insecurity may help to cause shyness, paranoia and social withdrawal, or alternatively it may encourage compensatory behaviors such as arrogance, aggression, or bullying, in some cases. The fact that the majority of human beings are emotionally vulnerable, and have the capacity to be hurt, implies that emotional insecurity could merely be a difference in awareness.
davidwilliam Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I act like sh*t don't phase me, inside it drives me crazy, my insecurities could eat me alive.
andywtson Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Cherish believes that God made her with a special purpose. Like any teenage girl, she has her insecurities, but for the most part she has a real healthy self-esteem.
chrisdenwoy Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 The condition or quality of being insecure; want of safety; danger; hazard; as, the insecurity of a building liable to fire; insecurity of a debt.
GeorgeMcCann Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 “Be careful not to mistake insecurity and inadequacy for humility! Humility has nothing to do with the insecure and inadequate! Just like arrogance has nothing to do with greatness!”
luvstrak Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 i am sorry to say this but i feel you should just let her go and move on.if she doesnt want you to go with her to the state, well thats a statement any jim will clearly read as "she dont want me no more!" my brotha man, there is lots of fish in thge sea, all you need is the right bait. im sure you will find anothe one out there who will blow your mind...
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