can love be blind?

[movana]

your thoughts on physical attraction please!

Edited August 2, 2011 by movana

[chelle21689]

I guess in a way. With my ex, we were just friends and I thought he was okay. When we were together ( 5 1/2 years) I thought he was the most attractive guy to me. Whenever I like a guy he seems more attractive than any other guy

[GoodOnPaper]

If you can take physical attraction for granted -- like the majority of women or the best looking of guys -- then it's easy. You go for the "hottest" or "cutest" looking person in the room and hope that his or her personality is something you like or can at least live with. For average- or below average-looking guys, it can be a very different story. For me, attraction was always the most complicated, stressful, elusive aspect of dating and relationships. You have to worry about leagues and competition . . . you're told to go after average-looking women but then you are supposed to think that they are the most attractive women on the planet when you are dating them . . . it a nearly impossible game to win.

 

When I was young, I was a little overly concerned about finding a woman that most people thought was attractive -- that way, I could justify to myself that it was OK to be the nerdy, geeky, science guy that I was/am. At this point in my life, my ideal partner is someone with whom I feel I can be totally at ease and "myself" with. In terms of looks, that means not too stunningly attractive -- too much drama and competition to deal with -- but attractive enough through looks and personality to stir up some emotional inspiration.

[smudge21]

I totally believe love is blind, or more love makes you blind. I can easily say that my recent ex, who still to this day I think is one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen, didn't do anything for me when we first met. Yeah, she was attractive, but I wasn't attracted to her (I think that's how things worked so well - we just got along as friends and things built up slowly). Once I started falling for her, she became this amazing girl in my eyes.

 

Same for a girl many years ago - once love kicked in she became so beautiful, but once things ended (badly) and the love had gone I saw her again and didn't find her the least bit attractive.

 

But it's not just in looks that love makes one blind - you also become blinded to their faults and are only ever able to see the good in people. Even when a break up occurs, if you still love them, it's hard to see them for what they are. Love makes you blind and in turn you stick them on that pedestal.

 

I suppose in other words, love really screws us up sometimes...

[creighton0123]

your thoughts on physical attraction please!

 

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind;

And therefore is wing'd Cupid painted blind

[movana]

Thanks for your responses everyone...just got reading them now, very interesting

[JohnM]

I'm probably too analytical and logic orientated to be blind. But I would not persue a relationship if not attracted to them, I find sex to be a large part of what attaches me in love and if I wasn't into that enough then I may as well be friends instead of a lover. I need to love the body and mind.

[Jamone]

i think people say that because when you're in love you put up with/accept the less desirable traits in your partner that other people might find repulsive.

[denise_xo]

i think people say that because when you're in love you put up with/accept the less desirable traits in your partner that other people might find repulsive.

 

That's also what I associated with the OP - during the infatuation stage you basically lose your normal ability to assess a person's characteristics and personality traits.

[TiYa]

That's also what I associated with the OP - during the infatuation stage you basically lose your normal ability to assess a person's characteristics and personality traits.

 

THIS. Love is blind in the sense that, your s/o faults are no longer faults