without Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I'm 20,a girl,and I don't know how to not get mad at my mom. I live in a country where I have to live with my parents. My mom ..She doesn't really know how to be a mother.in every mistake every problem that comes up ,she is so frustrated and anxious and makes me like that too. she also is so over protective about me having a bf or even going out with my gemale friends..about my ex,my mom really hurt me sometimes every now and then she would put pressure on me and say why doesn't he do this?and if he did she would say why does he do this? Her and my father say she does this because she loves me...my dad actually knows that she's outta control sometimes.. he himself is good at handeling the rough times but he also is protective.. I'm so sad,It's like i'm living with a kid that has so much effect on me...I shouldn't care about her saying these but i don't know what to do..she pushes her emotions to me ...
Savannah323 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Hi, Here are my thoughts. What I would do is pretend to listen to my mom during her "venting moment". Just nod your head. IF you try to make her see logic or argue with her, You will never win. It reminds me of the old saying "You can't teach an old dog new tricks". So, you are better off taking care of yourself and your mental health. Don't stress. Try de-stress activities as in meditation, dancing, exercising, or whatever works for you.
HardknockLife Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Have you tried to sit her down and have a nice talk? Just tell her straight up about how you feel.. Tell her that you dont appreciate being treated like a 10 year old.
Author without Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Have you tried to sit her down and have a nice talk? Just tell her straight up about how you feel.. Tell her that you dont appreciate being treated like a 10 year old. 1000 times.she just doesn't get it. Hi, Here are my thoughts. What I would do is pretend to listen to my mom during her "venting moment". Just nod your head. IF you try to make her see logic or argue with her, You will never win. It reminds me of the old saying "You can't teach an old dog new tricks". So, you are better off taking care of yourself and your mental health. Don't stress. Try de-stress activities as in meditation, dancing, exercising, or whatever works for you. You're right..but it's a bit hard..It's what i have tried to do these years.
Savannah323 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Another idea may be to change conversational topic to something more pleasant. You have to sneak it in as in "oh, that's terrible. By the way, did you hear or see or...." It's a tough situation, but courage. I am sure you will be able to find the right strategy.
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