luvbug89 Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 It's just been one month of us being broken up with absolutely NC and I still really miss him dearly. I thought it was going to get easier, but I found myself especially on Saturday, thinking about him and us. I'm not one to get over relationships quickly, and this is my first breakup where I've used NC fully. It's that bad of an urge to break NC when I post a thread. I don't have a FB or his number anymore so I definitely haven't caved in yet, but, I almost sent him an email. It's kinda crazy that after a month I still have the feelings, and emotion for him. Help :'(
Author luvbug89 Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 I try to think of my ex as a wound.. and every time I pick at it.. it gets worse & worse. You are in control of your recovery. If you contact him, you are going to reopen that wound as if you just got it. Thanks for the reply Sedated. I agree that contacting him at my most vulnerable moment (now) would re-open wounds, as you implied. Although he has contacted me via text 4 times since our breakup I have remained loyal to NC. Yes it hurt to ignore his texts (which were mostly just I miss you's and kisses) I did what was best for myself and learned that responding back wasn't going to heal me. I also felt that his attempts to reach out were not enough, only 4 texts was not what I would anticipate as an attempt to reconcile. Had he left me voicemails, missed calls or sudden emails it might have been a different story. Praying for a better tomorrow, and to not have my thoughts consumed of him.
luvsickpuppy Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I just, read a post about getting your ex back, and basically its just focus on yourself. I think its right. I don't know if your wanting him back, but I noticed that self confidence is a real turn on to the opposite sex. Feeling attractive and wanted would make any one feel better.
without Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 It's been a month for me too,and I miss him like crazy too. At least yours have contacted you,but mine hasn't ever.I feel so sad that he hasn't said anything at all.and I never thought it would end so suddenly.
Author luvbug89 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 I just, read a post about getting your ex back, and basically its just focus on yourself. I think its right. I don't know if your wanting him back, but I noticed that self confidence is a real turn on to the opposite sex. Feeling attractive and wanted would make any one feel better. Thanks luvsick, I feel that I am showing him that I'm focusing on myself by not replying to his messages. Usually, I would cave in and call or text him but I have not so, he might be thinking that I'm over him or don't need him in my life anymore. Idk if I want to get back, honestly, my heart says I miss him and yeah but the better thing for us is to seperate for sure.
Author luvbug89 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 It's been a month for me too,and I miss him like crazy too. At least yours have contacted you,but mine hasn't ever.I feel so sad that he hasn't said anything at all.and I never thought it would end so suddenly. Without -- I could only imagine what you're feeling at the moment. Definitely not hearing a peep from him would make me go crazy, I would ultimately think that he doesn't care anymore and that what we had was nothing. But rest assured, if we're feeling this way and miss their presence, I can honestly believe that they are going through the same emotions -they are just very good at masking it
Author luvbug89 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Well -- recently I'm preparing for oa move and getting ready to start fall semeester so my mind has been off of him for the moment. Until I found some of his Wii remotes in my closet in a basket. The thing is, I gave him back his Wii set (or, so I thought) a while ago and to my surprise find his Wii remotes in my closet. I was upset to see them there because I know the best thing to do is to give them back to him. Now, since I've stayed NC I have no idea if he's out on a business trip or even in the same apartment anymore, so my problem is politely giving those back without breaking NC... :/ ugh.
Diatribes Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Well -- recently I'm preparing for oa move and getting ready to start fall semeester so my mind has been off of him for the moment. Until I found some of his Wii remotes in my closet in a basket. The thing is, I gave him back his Wii set (or, so I thought) a while ago and to my surprise find his Wii remotes in my closet. I was upset to see them there because I know the best thing to do is to give them back to him. Now, since I've stayed NC I have no idea if he's out on a business trip or even in the same apartment anymore, so my problem is politely giving those back without breaking NC... :/ ugh. Seems like something rather trivial to break NC over. If they were that important to him, I'm sure he would have contacted you to retrieve these items. Don't compromise your situation over trivial items.
without Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 Without -- I could only imagine what you're feeling at the moment. Definitely not hearing a peep from him would make me go crazy, I would ultimately think that he doesn't care anymore and that what we had was nothing. But rest assured, if we're feeling this way and miss their presence, I can honestly believe that they are going through the same emotions -they are just very good at masking it Yes that's exactly how i feel,maybe you're right they are good.. I think its better to give a mutual friend to give him his wii or if you don't have just ignore it..
ScienceGal Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 It's been 7 weeks for me and I still miss him pretty badly. I just focus on the fact that he doesn't deserve me and that I will be much better off when I meet someone new that treats me well. I accept that this will take time. Just take the good moments when you can This too shall pass.
Author luvbug89 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 It's been 7 weeks for me and I still miss him pretty badly. I just focus on the fact that he doesn't deserve me and that I will be much better off when I meet someone new that treats me well. I accept that this will take time. Just take the good moments when you can This too shall pass. Thank you, I absolutely love that quote 'this too shall pass.' It just keeps me motivated for a better future. And like you, I do see it now as "I know my worth and he doesn't deserve me" Yes, have faith that you will find someone who treats you better and knows what they have when they look at you
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