caitypants Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Hi guys, This might be a bit on the long side, and I'm hoping some of you stick around to read it and give me some insight. I met a guy from an online dating site last week. The date went really well; we had so much to talk about, so much in common, chemistry, physical attraction...the date lasted for about 3 or 4 hours and ended with him driving me home and a quick kiss before I went inside. I heard from him when he got home, thanking me for the night and saying that he had fun. He contacted me the following day (on BBM); we made small talk for a few minutes and that was it. I heard from him the next day as well, asking me if I had "thrown away the rod yet" (we met on PlentyofFish). Didn't take it too seriously, we joked around a bit and we both mentioned that we would be in the same area that night with our friends and made plans to possibly meet up at some point. We did (this was at a club), and he seemed really happy to see me. He introduced me to his friends, I introduced him to mine, we danced, flirted, kissed, and then went for a walk as it was getting late anyway. He told me that he really liked me because I'm "as busy as he is", and we have so much fun together. I asked him about the "throwing away the rod" comment, and he said that he said it because he doesn't really wanting me seeing other guys. I thought it was kind of cute. He wanted to come back to my place (he promised he would sleep on the couch), and I said no. I got home, and received a text from him saying "thanks for another good time, miss ya already". I told him I was glad to have seen him that night and sorry for leaving. He said "it was the right call, and I'm actually happy you were able to make it. Can't wait to see you again." The next morning (Saturday) he texted me asking me if I had a good sleep. A bit more small talk, and then we made plans to see each other tonight (Monday). We didn't talk very much yesterday aside from a text from him asking if I was in the neighborhood because he was out for a friend's Birthday. I said no, and didn't hear back from him. Early this afternoon, I texted him asking if he still had time to meet up tonight. He said yes, and asked me what time I was free. I said "anytime after 6" and he said he would text me then. 6:30pm rolls around...no word from him. I contact him again, saying that I was ready to go whenever he was. 20 minutes later, he texts me saying "Sorry, my friend's uncle passed away unexpectedly and I have to go to the viewing." I was very shocked by this, and skeptical...but I couldn't question it. I said "Ok no problem, sorry to hear that", and he said "We'll meet up this week if you're not busy.". I told him that I was free Wednesday and he said "Ok, cool. Sorry again about today." I said "It's ok, you'll just have to make it up to me" (joking around) and he said "I will". The end. I have no idea what to make of this, maybe I am just a negative nancy but I can't help but feel like I've been blown off? I would hope that he's not the type of person to make an excuse like that........but you really never know. What do you guys think? Any input would be greatly appreciated! I've been dating for a couple years now, and have dealt with a lot of negative experiences...I thought this guy was different but now I'm unsure!! -C
prosense Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I am a guy so will give you input in guys' perspective. I don't think he is blowing you off or anything.. well, you just need to believe what he said previously (about his buddy's uncle passing)- so, just wait and please DO NOT overanalyze or anything. He WILL get ahold of you if he wants. If he doesnot on Wed, then just move on. Why don't you focus on something else e.g. work, workout or reading? Good luck!
Author caitypants Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 Thanks a ton - you're both so right. I really shouldn't be over-analyzing and I think the right thing is to assume that he is being honest and he's still interested.
TuffCookieX Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I'm in the same boat as you in the first few date phases and analyzing his every move, especially the time he also blew me off. Only thing I'm gonna add is, next time he wants to hang out, don't tell him when you're free. When he asks, say "what day did you have in mind?" Make him actually finalize plans instead of just a heads up as to when you'll be available. I find things work better that way.
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