weeble78 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Ok so BF and I have been arguing recently, and trying to stay out of each oher's way. He's just started a new job - and told me various stories about not being able to give me his work email address (we always email at work). I know for a fact he has an email address (he's emailed his friends) and therefore that he's lying. Do I (a) cut him some slack because we've been rowing loads and he clearly wants a bit of space (we live together); Or (b) call him out on it and tell him I know he's lying. And get mad because he'd lie to my face?
thatone Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 why would he lie about giving you his work email address? any ideas? doesn't make a lot of sense.
KathyM Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Ok so BF and I have been arguing recently, and trying to stay out of each oher's way. He's just started a new job - and told me various stories about not being able to give me his work email address (we always email at work). I know for a fact he has an email address (he's emailed his friends) and therefore that he's lying. Do I (a) cut him some slack because we've been rowing loads and he clearly wants a bit of space (we live together); Or (b) call him out on it and tell him I know he's lying. And get mad because he'd lie to my face? It's possible that he doesn't want to get a lot of Emails from you at work. They may be time consuming to read, and he doesn't want to have the obligation to respond to a lot of Emails from you at the office. Nevertheless, he should be honest about it, and you should hold him to a strict level of honesty. By all means, call him on the lie, but don't make too big of a deal about it. Tell him how important honesty is in a relationship, and you always want to be able to feel you can trust him in what he does and what he says. Ask him why he felt the need to lie about the Email. Assure him that you will respect his boundaries if he wants to limit personal Emails to the office. Get it out in the open and discuss the boundaries.
FitChick Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 It's very unprofessional to use work email for personal business. Tell him to get a Yahoo or Gmail account instead.
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